11.11.11

Happy Veterans Day and to all those who have served God Bless, you are truly a blessing.

Realization

Sitting on a beach in the sand watching the water, we see so many gifts around us. sunrise, sunset how much life there is under the water and the beauty of it, the sand itself and what it can be created into.

Have you ever built a sand castle. one so pretty and detailed and you become so proud of your work. But than the tide comes in and the castle washes back into the water. and our determination fades as quickly as the sun in the sky. but why? because we fail to realize that not everything created with beauty will stay in the shape we try to mold? and isn't that the lesson there?

For years when a person has you tied down into being a person you are not, they are trying to mold you into something. But just like sand, we won't stay that way. Our beauty is within hidden deep within our hearts and nothing one can do can change that. but psychologically it takes a deep toll on the brain. your determination sinks because you cannot be this person someone wants you to be and so your in between hearing it and feeling it. And after a while you become wounded. But all wounds heal with time and with the right people.

When you meet someone who thinks you are so perfect how you are and wants nothing more than you to be who you are its like a drug. you feel enlightened. But than the brain starts to question. What if this person really doesn't like who you are. The person before didn't, why now? And you try to mold yourself into different things to try and please this new person and fail miserably because it takes that to finally come to the understanding that they were real, and true when they said it was you they really loved. and it is a blessing to realize that. For some its too late as you have hurt this person so many times in trying so hard to be something your not thinking it would be right. For others this person is beautiful enough to put that aside and still hold your hand.

As you awaken to these new things you wonder why it was so complicated for you to understand it from the beginning. but years of psychological abuse takes a deep toll on the body and leaves scars you don't know are there until opened again. And how else do we heal the right way unless the scars are now finally open with truth and are closing with fact and love.

With love and Patience that someone gave you even while you were anything but kind to them. And not purposely, but because it was all you knew. the person before, well they gave you all their scenarios and the automatic thing is to recreate them, sometimes unconsciously, but it takes tough love to finally find the right way. your right way.

And now when you build that castle and it washes away you don't see disappointment, you see freedom. freedom to create new, and what you are everyday. the chance to realize that a mold does not last, but the foundation of that mold does. Sand is still there, just because the castle is not should show you that its not the building. its the tools you used to build and the foundation layed, that it will always be there. And that the sun will rise once again.

Asking for forgiveness is not a weakness because it takes every strength you have just to do so. And its the only way to free yourself from what was and start over being what is.

Be you and nothing but you because each time when the mold you build washes away, you are going to want to know who you are. not what you have to build again to be someone your not. And when someone loves you for you accept it. as difficult as it is. They love the sand and the foundation you can lay, not the building you can build. That you can do together..

<3 Always Ally

Jealousy is a disease, Hatred a side effect.

If you have a problem with someone, you shouldn't go running your mouth, you should face the fact that the root of the problem is your own self . The fact you dislike what you see when you look in the mirror, is the reflection of your life..

Anyone can use words to inflict pain. Think before you speak, use the correct actions, know facts before presuming and judging, never say something to someone else you couldn't handle or wouldn't like to hear yourself.

Jealousy is a disease, Hatred a side effect.

At some point Everyone takes a deep look at their life and realizes its time to make mends and change what you don't like seeing. Its not weakness, its strength and courage to do so. xx

Always remember you get one life. One chance. And when your done, when you get to your destination you will have to look back. Are you going to like what you see or are you going to have regrets and anger.

You make your own life. Destiny gives you that chance. Fate puts the right people in your path, those who don't fit are for you to figure out. Faith is what pulls you through the darkness and Beliefs are what gets you through to the light. Never blame anyone for your own faults and errors. Use your disappointments as learning tools and keep your success as a cherished gift. Always have Love or hate will take over.

Live as though you will have a next life judged upon the Karma of this one.. _______/)______./¯"""/') ¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯\)¯¯¯¯¯'\_„„„„\)

~Ally~

optimism

Promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. Look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true. Think only of the best, work only for the best,and expect only the best. Forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

Give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.

Live in the faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you!

When you come to the edge of all the light you know and are about to step into the darkness of the unknown. Faith is knowing that one of two things will happen. There will be solid ground to stand on or you will be taught to fly.

Doubt sees the obstacles

faith sees the way.

Doubt sees the darkest night

Faith sees the day.

Doubt dreads to take a step

Faith soars on high.

Doubt questions 'who believes?'

Faith answers, 'I.'

♥<3A.♥♥

Anyway you can..

People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered. Love them anyway. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Do good anyway. If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest person with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest person with the smallest mind. Think big anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack if you help them. Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you might get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you've got anyway.

♥♥♥A

Not Conditional..

there is no such thing as conditional love.

Love is either unconditional or it's no love. You might like someone conditional on their personality or behavior or circumstances. But love accepts no boundaries. So never say 'I love you because', for love has no cause, love comes from God.

Love is something that you can leave behind when you die. It's that powerful.

A ♥

Condemnation

you are commanded to love everyone, not condemn those who don't agree with you.. Your opinions are just that, - opinions, regardless of where you got them from. They are tiny, a speck compared to the immensity of God. You cannot possibly have even the faintest idea of what God commands to other people, to other lifeforms. Your only possible intelligent choice is to continuously open in love and acceptance. Today more than yesterday.

I will never ask or tell you to believe what i believe or do what i do. I will never tell those who disagree with me that they are no good and discard them. i welcome others opinions.

to me there is nothing better than being able to learn what other people see through their own eyes. What they believe. How they feel and what they do. Thats a wonderful thing.

Controversy is not, its just a form of ignorance.

♥♥♥A.

Tenderness

Nothing is so strong as gentleness, and nothing is so gentle as true strength. How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.

A♥

greed turned over..

Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. Pay no attention to what the critics say; no statue has ever been erected to a critic.

i'm going to share this, because sometimes its easier to understand through story lines:

A wise woman who was traveling in the mountains found a precious stone in a stream. The next day she met another traveler who was hungry, and the wise woman opened her bag to share her food. The hungry traveler saw the precious stone and asked the woman to give it to him. She did so without hesitation. The traveler left, rejoicing in his good fortune. He knew the stone was worth enough to give him security for a lifetime. But a few days later he came back to return the stone to the wise woman.

"I've been thinking," he said, "I know how valuable the stone is, but I give it back in the hope that you can give me something even more precious. Give me what you have within you that enabled you to give me the stone."

Never look down on anybody unless you're helping them up. The place to improve the world is first in one's own heart and head and hands. How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life, you will have been all of these if not already.

♥♥♥

something within

There is something within me

That is strong enough

To keep me from toppling

Over the edge of Sanity,

Over the ledge of frustration

Or over the hedge of All-out foolishness.

It leads me to prayer

When I would otherwise Break.

There is something in my make-up

Or my bringing up

Or just the way I look up

That straightens my back

And bows my head.

It becomes the focus of my meditation.

The sentiment in my supplication,

The reason for my transformation.

That thing inside me

Has me choosing light

Though darkness covers all.

It wells up like ocean waves

Come to drown those who Think they deserve to push me back,

Hold me down or Steal my joy.

I have a spiritual strength that Grows deeper and speaks louder as I get to know

More about who I am. And I know that i Love every moment.

♥ A.~

I am..

I am a contradiction a perfect imperfection On looking in from outside I think I’d pass inspection

My nails are neat, each hair in place My clothes the latest styles But look a little closer, And you can see my trials

The window to my balanced soul Is stained from too much smoke A birds eye view down at my heart Will clearly show it’s broke

My best intentions lead to pain And complicated messes My head is filled with wishes, My decisions second guesses

There was a time I tried to hide each wrinkle, scar and tear But I’m learning to appreciate That I’m more than I appear

Each wrinkle tells a story The path from there to here I’ve earned a little wisdom With every falling tear

My soul will soar in brilliant skies But then I’ll need to rest The embers of my passion Still smolder in my chest

Perhaps I’ll let my hair go wild And skip the manicure I’ll wear my favorite color They’ll say "Hey, look at her"

My hair, my heart, my clothes, my soul Will walk in one direction No longer contradicting My perfect imperfection

Now look at your same self And you see the same So how will you do Take it as you will Or dare to dream

Either way Perfect is only a Shame ♥A

the Will to go on..

God is always with you, seen or unseen, saint or sinner. Giving you air, supporting your footsteps, nourishing you with sunshine, God is here with you.

The separateness you sometimes feel is an illusion, in truth you are never alone. And so you go on and flourish. Never wilt.

When things go wrong as they sometimes will;

When the road you're trudging seems all uphill;

When the funds are low, and the debts are high

And you want to smile, but have to sigh;

When care is pressing you down a bit-

Rest if you must, but do not quit.

Success is failure turned inside out;

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt;

And you can never tell how close you are

It may be near when it seems so far;

So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit-

It's when things go wrong that you must not quit.

xx♥ A.~

LIFE

Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.

Life is beauty, admire it.

Life is bliss, taste it.

Life is a dream, realize it.

Life is a challenge, meet it.

Life is a duty, complete it.

Life is a game, play it.

Life is a promise, fulfill it.

Life is sorrow, overcome it.

Life is a song, sing it.

Life is a struggle, accept it.

Life is a tragedy, confront it.

Life is an adventure, dare it.

Life is luck, make it.

Life is too precious, do not destroy it.

Life is life, fight for it.

♥A.

a view

This is the beginning of a new day. You have been given this day to use as you will. You can waste it or use it for good. What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it. When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever; in its place is something that you have left behind...let it be something good.

A. xoxo

Peace

peace will come when you let the presence of God settle into your heart.

If there is to be peace in the world, there must be peace in the nations.

If there is to be peace in the nations, there must be peace in the cities.

If there is to be peace in the cities, there must be peace between neighbors.

If there is to be peace between neighbors, there must be peace in the home.

If there is to be peace in the home, there must be peace in the heart.

♥

An act..

your kindness makes a difference. Even if it is a very tiny act of goodness and you think no one notices, God notices. Always remember that one little act of kindness can tilt the balance of an entire situation. One little act of kindness can ripple out in countless ways that you many never know about. A.♥

Universal Rules

1. Rise with the sun to pray. Pray alone. Pray often. The Great Spirit will listen, if you only speak.

2. Be tolerant of those who are lost on their path. Ignorance, conceit, anger, jealousy and greed stem from a lost soul. Pray that they will find guidance.

3. Search for yourself, by yourself. Do not allow others to make your path for you. It is your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.

4. Treat the guests in your home with much consideration. Serve them the best food, give them the best bed and treat them with respect and honor.

5. Do not take what is not yours whether from a person, a community, the wilderness or from a culture. If it was not earned or given, it is not yours.

6. Respect all things that are placed upon this earth - whether it be people or plant.

7. Honor other people's thoughts, wishes and words. Never interrupt another or mock or rudely mimic them. Allow each person the right to personal expression.

8. Never speak of others in a bad way. The negative energy that you put out into the universe will multiply when it returns to you.

9. All persons make mistakes. And all mistakes can be forgiven.

10. Bad thoughts cause illness of the mind, body and spirit. Practice optimism.

11. Nature is not FOR us, it is a PART of us. They are part of your worldly family.

12. Children are the seeds of our future. Plant love in their hearts and water them with wisdom and life's lessons. When they are grown, give them space to grow.

13. Avoid hurting the hearts of others. The poison of your pain will return to you.

14. Be truthful at all times. Honesty is the test of ones will within this universe.

15. Keep yourself balanced. Your Mental self, Spiritual self, Emotional self, and Physical self - all need to be strong, pure and healthy. Work out the body to strengthen the mind. Grow rich in spirit to cure emotional ails.

16. Make conscious decisions as to who you will be and how you will react. Be responsible for your own actions.

17. Respect the privacy and personal space of others. Do not touch the personal property of others - especially sacred and religious objects. This is forbidden.

18. Be true to yourself first. You cannot nurture and help others if you cannot nurture and help yourself first.

19. Respect others religious beliefs. Do not force your belief on others.

20. Share your good fortune with others. Participate in charity.

A.xxx

Bringing Love to Every Moment

Whatever your fate is, whatever the heck happens, you say, "This is what I need." It may look like a wreck, but go at it as though it were an opportunity, a challenge.

If you bring love to that moment - not discouragement - you will find the strength is there. Any disaster that you can survive is an improvement in your character, your stature, and your life. What a privilege! This is when the spontaneity of your own nature will have a chance to flow. Then, when looking back at your life, you will see that the moments which seemed to be great failures followed by wreckage were the incidents that shaped the life you have now. You’ll see that this is really true.

Nothing can happen to you that is not positive. Even though it looks and feels at the moment like a negative crisis, it is not.xx

♥♥♥A.

Uniquely You

When you try to value yourself for being the best in something, you are bound to fail. Even Olympic champions are the best only for a few years.

You are precious to God not because there is no one better than you, but because you are a unique creation of mind, body and spirit, - there is no one like you, - and that is exactly what makes you so indescribably precious. As so as you come to terms with that, you will be finally able to really live you life to its fullest.

♥A

Never go at it Alone..

shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow.

There is no need for you to go it alone. what we forget when were down and out is that There are people who love you, and who are ready to give you much needed support as possible. There are even more, - way more than you can possibly imagine, people who CAN love you if you give them a chance. We tend to cut people off without even getting to know them because we judge a book by its cover. And isn't that just shallow with all the wrong morals..

Make 'share joy, half the sorrow' your motto for today.

♥A

ride vs. destination

Someone once said 'It is better to travel than to arrive.'

Ask yourself if its about the ride, or the destination..

Were given a path but so many opportunities as we travel down it. Just because one doesn't work doesn't mean the others won't either. Its about finding purpose, Your purpose, Your dream, Your Life.

And if there is one thing i can guarantee is that no one but you can find your way through it. No one but you can make the right decisions. Only you can Live to full potential but you can't have fears. Keep optimism, Have courage, Remember Hope and Faith. Never let anyone tell you what you can and cannot do. They don't walk in your shoes. Don't look back unless you want to remember something to help you for the present and remember no one knows whats held in the future.

This is one life, your life. Make sure at the end of it, when you look back, that you like what you see..

much Love

A.~ xoxoxo

disillusionized

We strive so hard to have success that we let ourselves down to disappointment. But we led ourselves down that road. Strive for great, Expect worst, You end up in between without disappointment and in some cases you might end up even better. But expectations can be misleading..

We will always be judged, its the way society is, but you have to remember its how you are because of it that matters. If you let being judged bother you, your going to have many problems. But if you brush it off and keep on moving than who really cares what others think. And what gives them the right anyway. They must care on some level to take time out of their day to judge.. so doesn't that make you the better one anyway..And remember when people judge or hate on someone they are really only speaking and thinking of themselves..

The only time your not good enough is when you convince your own self that your not. No one can tell you who and what you are. Only you know and so if you tell yourself something your going to live by that. Everyone is more than good enough but its what we tell ourselves and how we carry ourselves that will be the outcome of how we feel.

To be not accomplished to is to have never been born. In one way whether you know it or not, you have changed lives and helped in some way. You have done good in the earth and have challenged yourself and others. everyone is accomplished in some way. to think your not is ignorant.

Stress is inevitable like society. With the hard times, the way people are and the hatred out there, there are so many things that can be stressful. But no matter what storm is going through your life you have to have faith and believe. pray. you have to understand that the storm does blow over even when you feel like you can't get up anymore. And when you pray you have to believe in what your asking. if you don't than He will not deliver. Why should he, you don't believe it.. You have to believe He will deliver and know it won't happen over night, and wont happen like a pure miracle, but opportunities will start popping up. There is your answers.

Faith is not necessary when you know how things are going to work out, - that's knowledge. It's in the time of unknowing that having faith is what sees you through to the other side. Faith is what gives you strength. Faith is that light in your heart that keeps on shining even when it's all darkness outside. Now is the time to keep that faith alive!

♥♥♥A

forgive

When another person makes you suffer, it is because they suffer deeply within themselves, and their suffering is spilling over. He/She does not need punishment; they need help. That's the message they are sending. Forgive, not because you are weak, but because you are better and because you know that everyone makes mistakes; especially those who are so lost. ♥a

starting over

You cannot let anyone else decide who you are. You have to decide for yourself. So step outside and take a breath. Get your perspective back and realize what you want your journey to be. When you look back on life, make sure you see Great and not regrets.

Tell yourself this:

'I'm not giving up, I'm starting over' And go from there. Thats not weakness for it takes all the strength you possess to do just that.

Remember to forgive. Because its always the first step to anything. and forgiving is not a weakness either. its takes courage to forgive. no need to forget, it ws a lesson learned, so use it but don't ever let something keep rein on you. so forgive and move on and remember that what your forgiving is someone else mistakes and weaknesses.

Keep you load light. You will never make it if you carry too much on your back. You will eventually collapse. Take things one at a time. When you do something make it right, not rushed and sloppy because it reflects you. So keep it simple and do it correctly. We don't have much power over things so when you get hthe chance to do some things, correct them, again i encourage you to do one at a time and do it right.

Never let anyone judge you and don't judge anyone else. we are all the same. what separates us is our minds and free will. So everyone has different decision making. when you judge your only judging yourself so be careful because most know that and when you speak ill of people your speaking only of yourself. Where else would those thought realm from.

Always keep cool even when angry because you always need perspective. Never wear blinders because your missing the beauty of the world. you eventually will be trapped by darkness.

Be a leader, but lead to greatness and nothing less. And never let people who stand beside you down.

♥A.

purpose

What we go through has a purpose. What we fail to see is what that purpose is. but maybe were not supposed to know..

When you try something and it doesn't work it doesn't mean failure because failure is not trying at all. It just means it wasn't meant for you. God has bigger plans. When someone enters or exits your life its always for a meaning. They are there to help you learn something. We know that the evil surrounds us and that too is to help us see beauty that we stop seeing because of keeping blinders on.

And if there is one thing that i have learned is just because something is not happening or fitting in your life right now, doesn't mean it won't later. It just means now you are not ready.

Understanding life is not only key to survival but it will get you through the hardest of times. It will help you keep going instead of faltering and giving up. Never rely on anyone but yourself, not only is that a lesson of life but one of the most important. Just as following instinct is another.

Trust is something to be given only when you know you get it back but never trust someone who doesn't deserve it and don't give trust if you can't back it. Essentials to life lye in your hands but we don't want to see it. remember the 5 senses, they are there for a specific reason. And they are very good guides. But remember hearing is not listening, looking is not seeing, smelling is not savoring, tasting is not enjoying, touching is not feeling.

You can keep a guard up, but it only shields yourself to endless possibilities just as if you keep your heart closed, you cannot let love in and hatred out. Always have an open mind and remember that no matter what You in the end make the difference. xx

Much Love always,

A.~ ♥

Simplicity...

We fail to see the beauty in such simple things. Mostly because of the simplicity of it, and also because of ignorance. When greed manifests into wanting more and more we become blind sided to the beautiful things we already have and should cherish, and the things that surround us that we should be grateful for. But were selfish creatures of habit.

But for those who have children, is that how you want your child to be? Because we know that everything we do now is everything they learn. They see more than we think, and hear more than we know. they pick up on much more than we imagine. Then there are people who are willing to settle for such little because they are afraid of bigger things. Such as love. When people are set in their ways they become again 'creatures of habit' caring what the people who surround them think. But those people never experience anything true or pure. So worried about what people think of them or what they would say, they lose so much in life. And than wonder why..

Today I would love for you to find one simple thing to cherish. Something you already have, someone you already have, someone you know, something around you, etc. File it away or share it here with us. I will share mine. I had my coffee outside this morning with a baby squirrel sitting about 2 inches away eating his nuts. It was a beautiful morning and the watching of the squirrel, the innocence and beauty, i cherish that few moments.

And for those who already do simple and are afraid to break out of the routine, i dare you too try something without caring what people think. without wondering what your friends or others would say. i invite you to try life on for what it really is.

God Bless and with love

Ally

fence sitters

Do not Let Anyone make you feel inferior. do not let anyone make you feel like something you said, say or do is stupid or ridiculous. Never let anyone have the illusion of control. Don't pretend you do either when you don't. Understand that ignorance surrounds us, but we make the choice to fall into it or to pass it by. No one is better than anyone. period. (for a few special someone's who need to know how special they are.)

God makes no mistakes and he makes only treasures. But we decide our outcome of what and who we become. Stop following, listening to fence sitters and start leading.

Fence sitters: procrastinators; or the people who sit and do nothing while the world passes them by. their ignorant and think they are better. And most of all is they judge because they have nothing better to do than to see their reflection each morning and hate.

A.~

pray

that to worship God you must go beyond words to speak with your heart: You can mouth the words of a prayer all day long and just waste your time, unless you also speak with your heart. And to speak with your heart means to embody first. If you pray for love, be loving. If you pray for wealth, be generous. If you pray for health, practice health yourself. A.`

you&you

You must trust yourself. If you do not, then you will forever be looking to others to prove your own merit to you, and you will never be satisfied. You will always be asking others what to do and at the same time resenting their help. Trust in yourself starts with being ok with the consequences of your decisions. And always remember that mistakes are only proof of you trying.. use them as learning experiences but never lose your own trust. ♥

Response

You may believe that you are responsible for what you do, but not for what you think. The truth is that you are responsible for what you think, because it is only at this level that you can exercise choice. What you do comes from what you think

Every morning when I get up, the first thing I decide is:

`What do I want?

`Misery? Bliss?

`What am I going to choose today?

`And it happens that I always choose bliss.

`It is my choice, it is my life.

`Life's not about expecting, hoping and wishing, it's about doing, being and becoming. ♥

It's about the choices you've just made, and the ones you're about to make, it's about the things you choose to say - today.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past ...we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way.

But you can change you outlook on Today xx

A.~

Co-Dependency

Co-dependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another. (this blew my mind when i had learned this once upon a time actually..) It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. aka “relationship addiction” .

people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive. And will stay in it always trying to fix and balance the relationship out. The blame is always there's no matter what. An example is domestic violent relationships. People wonder why one party can't just leave it. Well besides being hunted when you do leave, the fact is these people can't. They can not function on their own. (so they think). its all psychological, but to the person in that state its as real as breathing air.

You ever notice, and if not you someone a friend or family member, tends to stray towards the same type of male/female in a relationship. even though they know it wont last and they know the person isn't good enough for them. Thats a tell tale sign. They want to fix these people but of course know they cant and will take blame for all their action and wonder 'what am i doing wrong.' 'i must be causing this' 'how do i change to make them love me'. These are all signs. Its not you, never was. the hardest to over come is that lesson right there.

More signs of Co-dependency:

An exaggerated sense of responsibility for the actions of others A tendency to confuse love and pity, with the tendency to “love” people they can pity and rescue A tendency to do more than their share, all of the time A tendency to become hurt when people don’t recognize their efforts An unhealthy dependence on relationships. The co-dependent will do anything to hold on to a relationship; to avoid the feeling of abandonment An extreme need for approval and recognition A sense of guilt when asserting themselves A compelling need to control others Lack of trust in self and/or others Fear of being abandoned or alone Difficulty identifying feelings Rigidity/difficulty adjusting to change Problems with intimacy/boundaries Chronic anger Lying/dishonesty Poor communications Difficulty making decisions

There are books out there, one i encountered, i can't think of the author at the moment, but its called 'Co Dependency No More'. and there is therapy. There is no shame in asking for help, only strength and courage to do so. I once upon a time was in this, had this.

When you come from a dysfunctional family its not your fault to end up like this. to want to love and be loved is natural, unfortunately how the process ends up is not. It is solvable though..

God Bless Love , Ally

Alice in Wonderland (1951)

Alice in Wonderland has a great significance. in every line throughout the movie, they are actually quotes with powerful meanings. In 1951 when the original came out, that was the sole purpose of the film for children to enjoy the pictures but to understand as they grew that nothing is normal. That all those questions in the movie and all those 'quotes' are indeed part of life...:

Cheshire Cat: Oh, by the way, if you'd really like to know, he went that way. Alice: Who did? Cheshire Cat: The White Rabbit. Alice: He did? Cheshire Cat: He did what? Alice: Went that way. Cheshire Cat: Who did? Alice: The White Rabbit. Cheshire Cat: What rabbit? Alice: But didn't you just say - I mean - Oh, dear. Cheshire Cat: Can you stand on your head? Alice: Oh!

[Alice falls down the rabbit hole and her dress poofs up like a parachute] Alice: Well, after this I should think nothing of falling down stairs.

White Rabbit: [singing] I'm late / I'm late / For a very important date. / No time to say "Hello." / Goodbye. / I'm late, I'm late, I'm late.

Alice: If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary-wise; what it is it wouldn't be, and what it wouldn't be, it would. You see?

Daisy: What kind of a garden do you come from? Alice: Oh, I don't come from any garden. Daisy: Do you suppose she's a wildflower?

Cheshire Cat: If I were looking for a white rabbit, I'd ask the Mad Hatter. Alice: The Mad Hatter? Oh, no no no... Cheshire Cat: Or, you could ask the March Hare, in that direction. Alice: Oh, thank you. I think I'll see him... Cheshire Cat: Of course, he's mad, too. Alice: But I don't want to go among mad people. Cheshire Cat: Oh, you can't help that. Most everyone's mad here. [laughs maniacally; starts to disappear] Cheshire Cat: You may have noticed that I'm not all there myself.

Walrus: The time has come, my little friends, to talk of other things / Of shoes and ships and sealing wax, of cabbages and kings / And why the sea is boiling hot, and whether pigs have wigs / Calloo, Callay, come run away / With the cabbages and kings.

Doorknob: Read the directions and directly you will be directed in the right direction.

Alice: It would be so nice if something would make sense for a change.

March Hare: There's only one way to stop a MAD WATCH.

March Hare: I have an excellent idea, LETS CHANGE THE SUBJECT.

Queen of Hearts: Off with their heads.

Queen of Hearts: Who's been painting my roses red? WHO'S BEEN PAINTING MY ROSES RED? /Who dares to taint / With vulgar paint / The royal flower bed? / For painting my roses red / Someone will lose his head. Card Painter: Oh please, your majesty, please! It's all his fault! Card Painter: Not me, your grace! The ace, the ace! Queen of Hearts: You? Card Painter: No, two! Queen of Hearts: The two, you say? Card Painter: Not me! The three! Queen of Hearts: That's enough! Off with their heads!

White Rabbit: We need a lazard with a liddle... a lad... can you help us? Bill: At your service, gov'nor. Dodo: Bill, my lad. Have you ever been down a chimney? Bill: Why, gov'nor, I've been down more chimneys... Dodo: Excellent, excellent. Now just hop down the chimney and pull that monster out of there. Bill: Righto, gov'nor... Monster? Aaaaah!

Mad Hatter: Would you like a little more tea? Alice: Well, I haven't had any yet, so I can't very well take more. March Hare: Ah, you mean you can't very well take less. Mad Hatter: Yes. You can always take more than nothing.

Doorknob: D'ooooh! Alice: Oh! I beg your pardon... Doorknob: Quite all right, but you did give me quite a turn. Alice: You see, I was chasing this... Doorknob: Rather good, what? Doorknob? Turn? Since one good turn deserves another, what can I do for you?

Dodo: I say, you'll never get dry that way. Alice: Get dry? Dodo: Have to run with the others. First rule of a caucus race, you know.

Alice: Well, when I was lost, I suppose it's good advice to stay where you are until someone finds you. But who'd ever think to look for me here? [sigh] Alice: Good advice. If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it.

Tweedle Dum: If you think we're waxworks, you ought to pay, you know. Tweedle Dee: Contrarywise, if you think we're alive you ought to speak to us. Tweedle Dee, Tweedle Dum: That's logic.

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Dormouse: Twinkle twinkle, little bat / How I wonder what you're at? / Up above the world you fly / Like a tea tray in the sky.

Alice: Unbirthday? I'm sorry, but I don't quite understand. March Hare: It's very simple. Now, thirty days has Septem -No. wait... An unbirthday, if you have a birthday, then you - [laughs] March Hare: She doesn't know what an unbirthday is.

Alice: Curiouser and curiouser.

Mad Hatter: Oh yes mustard! That'll do... Mustard? Don't let's be silly. Now lemon, that's different...

Alice: I'm sorry I interrupted your birthday party. Thank you. March Hare: Birthday? My dear child, this is NOT a birthday party. Mad Hatter: Of course not. This is an unbirthday party.

Mad Hatter: Clean cup, clean cup. Move down.

Queen of Hearts: I warn you dear child, if I lose my temper, you lose your head. Understand?

[after they have restrained the Dormouse] Mad Hatter: Ah thank goodness! Those are the things that upset me! March Hare: See all the trouble you started? Alice: But I didn't think... March Hare: Ah, that's just it. If you don't think, then you shouldn't talk.

Alice: Oh, but that's nonsense. Flowers can't talk. The Rose: But of course we can talk, my dear. Orchid: If there's anyone around worth talking to. Daisy: Or about. [giggles]

The Rose: Just what species or, shall we say, genus are you, my dear? Alice: Well, I guess you would call me... genus, humanus... Alice. Daisy: Ever see an alice with a blossom like that? Orchid: Come to think of it, did you ever see an alice? Daisy: Yes, and did you notice her petals? What a peculiar color. Orchid: [sniffing Alice's hair] And no fragrance. Daisy: [chuckling, as she lifts up one side of Alice's dress] And just look at those stems. The Rose: [as Alice slaps the Daisy's leaves away] Rather scrawny, I'd say. Bud: I think she's pretty. The Rose: Quiet, bud. Share this quote Alice: Better read it first, for if one drinks much from a bottle marked "Poison", it's almost certain to disagree with one sooner or later.

Caterpillar: Who... are... you? Alice: Why, I hardly know, sir. I've changed so much since this morning, you see... Caterpillar: No, I do not C, explain yourself. Alice: I'm afraid I can't explain myself, you see, because I'm not myself, you know. Caterpillar: I do not know. Alice: I can't put it any more clearly, sir, because it isn't clear to me.

Mad Hatter: Why is a raven like a writing desk? Alice: Riddles? Now let me see... why is a raven like a writing desk? Mad Hatter: I beg your pardon? Alice: Why is a raven like a writing desk? Mad Hatter: [alarmed] Why is a what? March Hare: Careful, she's stark ravin' mad! Alice: But it's your silly riddle. You just said... Mad Hatter: Easy, don't get excited! March Hare: How about a nice cup of tea? Alice: "Have a cup of tea," indeed! Well I'm sorry, but I just haven't the time!

Mad Hatter: No wonder you're late. Why, this watch is exactly two days slow.

Alice: In my world, the books would be nothing but pictures.

Alice: Curiosity often leads to trouble.

Alice: I simply must get through! Doorknob: Sorry, you're much too big. Simply impassible. Alice: You mean impossible? Doorknob: No, impassible. Nothing's impossible.

White Rabbit: Why, Mary Ann! What are you doing out here? Alice: Mary Ann? White Rabbit: Don't just do something, stand there... Uh... no no! Go go! Go get my gloves! I'm late! Alice: But late for what? That's just what I... White Rabbit: My gloves! [Blows trumpet] White Rabbit: At once, do you hear! Alice: Goodness. I suppose I'll be taking orders from Dinah next.

Dodo: [singing] We'll blow the thing there out, we'll smoke the monster out!

Alice: You can learn a lot of things from the flowers... Huh! Seems to me they could learn a few things about manners!

Caterpillar: Who are you?

Caterpillar: Recite. Alice: Oh. Yes sir. How doth the little bumblebee improve each... Caterpillar: Stop. That is not spoken correctically. It goes: How doth the little crocodile improve his shining tail. And pour the waters of the Nile, on every golden scale. How cheerfully he seems to grin, how neatly spreads his claws. And welcomes little fishes in, with gently smiling jaws. Alice: Well, I must say, I've never heard it that way before. Caterpillar: I know. I have improoooved it. Share this quote Caterpillar: By the way, I have a few more helpful hints. One side will make you grow taller... Alice: One side of what? Caterpillar: ...and the other side will make you grow shorter. Alice: The other side of what? Caterpillar: THE MUSHROOM, OF COURSE!

Alice: I was sitting on the riverbank with uh... with you know who... Mad Hatter: I DO? Alice: I mean my C-A-T. Mad Hatter: Tea? March Hare: [slices a tea cup in half] Just half a cup, if you don't mind.

Mad Hatter: Do you care for tea? Alice: Why, yes. I'm very fond of tea. March Hare: If you don't care for tea, you could at least make polite conversation!

Alice: When I get home I shall write a book about this place... If I ever do get home.

Cheshire Cat: All ways here you see, are the QUEEN'S WAYS! Alice: But I've never met any queen. Cheshire Cat: You haven't? You ha-VEN'T? Oh, but you must! She'll be mad about you, simply mad! [chuckles, then rolls over and almost disappears] Cheshire Cat: The romeraths' outgrabe... Alice: Please, please! H-How can I find her? Cheshire Cat: Well, some go this way, and some go that way. But as for me, myself, personally, I prefer the short-cut.

Cheshire Cat: You know? We could make her *really* angry! Shall we try? Alice: Oh, no, no! Cheshire Cat: Oh, but it's loads of fun!

Alice: [as a giant] And as for you, your majesty! Your majesty indeed! Why, you're not a queen, [shrinking] Alice: You're just a fat, pompous, bad tempered old ty... [normal size] Alice: tyrant... Queen of Hearts: [giggles] And uh, just what were you saying, my dear? Cheshire Cat: Why, she simply said that you're a fat, pompous, bad tempered old tyrant!

Queen of Hearts: Now then, are you ready for your sentence? Alice: But there has to be a verdict first. Queen of Hearts: Sentence first! Verdict afterwards. Alice: But that just isn't the way. Queen of Hearts: [shouting] All ways are...! Alice: ...your ways, your Majesty.

Cheshire Cat: [singing] 'Twas brilig, and the slithy toves / Did gyre and gimble in the wabe: / All mimsy were the borogroves, / And the mome raths outgrabe. Alice: Now where do you suppose...? Cheshire Cat: Lose something? Alice: [turns around to find just the Cat's smile talking to her] Oh my! oh, no no, I was just... uh never mind. Cheshire Cat: Oh, that's quite all right. One moment please. [two eyes drop down on top of the mouth and the full cat form appears] Cheshire Cat: Second chorus. [singing] Cheshire Cat: 'Twas brilig, and the slithy toves / Did gyre and gimble in the wabe Alice: Why, why you're a cat! Cheshire Cat: A *Cheshire* Cat. [starts to disappear] Cheshire Cat: All mimsy were the borogroves... Alice: Oh wait! Cheshire Cat: [reappears] There you are! Third chorus... Alice: Oh, no, no. I was just wondering if you could help me find my way. Cheshire Cat: Well that depends on where you want to get to. Alice: Oh, it really doesn't matter, as long as... Cheshire Cat: Then it really doesn't matter which way you go.

King of Hearts: What do you know about this unfortunate affair? March Hare: Nothing. Queen of Hearts: Nothing whatever? March Hare: Nothing whatever! Queen of Hearts: [shouts] That's very important! Jury, write that down!

[the Caterpillar has called a very frustrated Alice back so he can finish the conversation] Alice: ...Well? Caterpillar: ...Keep your temper. Alice: Is that all? Caterpillar: No. "Exaketededly" what is your problem? Alice: Well its exak... exact... Its precisely this. I should like to be a little larger, sir. Caterpillar: Why? Alice: Well, after all, three inches is such a wretched height, and... Caterpillar: [suddenly angry] I am "exaketededly" three inches high, and it is a very good height indeed! Alice: But I'm not used to it. And you needn't *shout*!

Bird in the Tree: A serpent! Help! Help! Serpent! Serpeeent! Alice: But please! Please! Bird in the Tree: Off with you! Shoo! Shoo! Help! Serpent! Alice: I'm not a serpent. Bird in the Tree: You're not? Then just what are you? Alice: I'm just a little girl. Bird in the Tree: Little? Little? [laughs] Alice: Well, I am... I mean, I was. Bird in the Tree: And I suppose you don't like eggs, either? Alice: Yes, I like eggs, but... Bird in the Tree: Aha! I knew it! I knew it! A serpent! Serpent! Serpeeeent! Alice: Oh, for goodness sake!

Alice: [after the Warlus and the Carpenter] That was a very sad story. Tweedle Dee: Aye, but there's a moral to it. Alice: Oh, a very good moral, if you happen to be an oyster.

Queen of Hearts: Now, where do you come from? Alice: Well, I'm trying to find my way home... Queen of Hearts: Your way? All ways here are my ways! Alice: Yes, I know, but I was just thinking... Queen of Hearts: Curtsy while you're thinking. It saves time. Alice: [curtsying] Yes, Your Majesty, but I just wanted to ask you... Queen of Hearts: I'll ask the questions! Do you play croquet? Alice: Why, yes, Your Majesty. Queen of Hearts: Then let the game begin!

White Rabbit: Her Imperial Highness, Her Grace, Her Excellency, Her Royal Majesty, the Queen of Hearts! [Crowd cheers] White Rabbit: ... And the King. Voice in crowd: Hooray!

Alice: Well, it all started when I was sitting on the river bank with Dinah. March Hare: Very interesting - Who's Dinah? [Pants lasciviously] Alice: Oh, Dinah's my cat. You see... Dormouse: Cat? CAT!

Alice: Of all the silly nonsense, this is the stupidest tea party I've ever been to in all my life.

Orchid: To put it bluntly, a weed.

White Rabbit: Your Majesty, members of the jury, loyal subjects... and the King... the prisoner at the bar stands accused of enticing Her Majesty, the Queen of Hearts, into a game of croquet, thereby and with malice of forethought, molesting, tormenting, and otherwise annoying our beloved... Queen of Hearts: Never mind all that! Get to the part where I lose my temper. White Rabbit: ...thereby causing the Queen to lose her temper.

Queen of Hearts: And who is this? King of Hearts: Let me see, my dear. It's certainly not a heart. Do you suppose it's a club?

King of Hearts: Rule 42: All persons more than a mile high must leave the court immediately. Alice: I am not a mile high, and I'm not leaving. Queen of Hearts: Sorry. Rule 42, you know.

Queen of Hearts: [after the Queen of Hearts is hit in the head and covered in the table cloth] Someone's head IS GOING TO ROLL FOR THIS!

March Hare: Why don't you start at the begining? Mad Hatter: Yes and when you reach the end... Stop.

Alice: [after eating a mushroom] I'm tired of being only three inches high. [suddenly grows out of control] Alice: Yi-yi-yi-yi-yi-yi-yi-yi-yi-yi!

[Alice reaches the door to escape from the mob] Doorknob: [tries to open the door] D'oh! Still locked you know! Alice: [in horror] But the queen! I simply must get out! Doorknob: [chuckles] But you *are* outside. Alice: What? Doorknob: [opens his mouth] See for yourself. [Alice sees through his mouth and sees herself asleep with Dinah also sleeping on her lap by a tree in a beautiful meadow] Alice: Why - why that's me! I'm asleep! Queen of Hearts: [shout from a distance] Don't let her get away! Off with her head! Alice: [in terror, through the Doorknob's mouth] Alice, wake up! Please, wake up, Alice! Queen of Hearts: [comes closer with the other mob] Off with her head! Alice: Alice! Please, wake up, Alice! [as the mob draws nearer, the screen goes into multicolor until it shows Alice sleeping by the tree] Alice: Alice! Alice! Alice! Alice's sister: [changes to her sister's] Alice! Alice! Will you kindly pay attention and recite your lesson.

Tweedle Dee, Tweedle Dum: [singing together] How do ya do and shake hands, shake hands, shake hands. How do ya do and shake hands and state your name and business. [both spoken] Tweedle Dee, Tweedle Dum: That's manners!

Alice: [turning down an offer for a cup of tea] I'm sorry, but I just haven't the time! March Hare: The time! The time! Who's got the time? Share this quote Mad Hatter: [after "fixing" the White Rabbit's watch] Two days slow, that's what it is.

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Alice's sister: [reading from a history book] "... leaders, and had been of late much accustomed to usurpation and conquest. Edwin and Morcar, the earls of Mercia and Northumbria, declared for him: and even Stigand..." Alice. [camera zooms out to show Alice sitting in a tree, playing with Dinah and making a chain of daisies] Alice: Hmm? Oh, I'm listening. Alice's sister: "And even Stigand, the archbishop of Canterbury, agreed to meet with William and offer him the crown. William's conduct at first was moderate." [Alice laughs as her daisy chain falls on her sister's face]

Alice: [drinks from bottle] Mmm... tastes like cherry tart. [shrinks down] Alice: Grapefruit. [shrinks down] Alice: Pineapple. [shrinks down] Alice: Roast turkey. [now at minimum size] Alice: Goodness! What did I do? Doorknob: You almost went out like a candle! Alice: Why, look! I'm just the right size! Doorknob: No use. I forgot to tell you. I'm locked! Alice: Oh no! Doorknob: But of course, you've got the key, so... Alice: What key? Doorknob: Now, don't tell me you've left it up there!

Alice: How doth the little crocodile improve each shining tail and pour the waters of the waterside... Alice's sister: Alice, what *are* you talking about? Alice: Oh. I'm sorry, but you see, the Caterpillar said... Alice's sister: Caterpillar? Oh, for goodness sakes. Alice, I... Oh, well. Come along, it's time for tea.

Non-existent

Perfection is non existent unless you think imperfection is perfection. The eye of the beholder will see what someone else wont because each view is perceived separately.

If your inner beauty doesn't exude through, Than no matter how imperfectly perfect u are, u will never be seen as anything but just imperfect. The heart is the key to pure appeal. Let it shine ♥ Let it glow ♥ let it make you imperfectly Perfect...:

We look to often for perfection. We want it in everything we do, but how can that be possible when it doesn't exist. So in turn we set up for a failure due to our lack of ignorance. When you look in the mirror are you looking at what you want to see, or what you do see. Are you looking into the eyes of the person and the soul that we seem to neglect as well. Are you seeing yourself for who you are or are you seeing what airbrush and cosmetics can do. The major question to ask is are you happy with what you see.

If you are not, than its not the outer image that's the problem now is it. your not happy with who you are. Thats the first thing we forget and the first we tend to dwell on not realizing. The only true person to make you happy is yourself. You should be seeing your heart in your eyes, the soul through the image and be content to know you do all you can and are all you can be. Cliche' maybe.. but it hits the truth.

'Never judge a book by its cover' But how often do we see something/someone and do just that. My point I'm trying to push is that no matter how much you airbrush yourself to be something/someone, unless you are who you are (real and true), doing you and not another's way, and are happy with how you are, where you are, you won't see what you want to.

the perfection you seek is like control.. No one has it nor will they ever. its an illusion we give ourselves to feel like we have power, but in the end you never had it.

Set yourself up for greatness and always be true to yourself. Find contentment with you first than look for it in everything you do. Don't seek, don't search, don't ask, don't knock, don't demand - relax. If you relax, it is there. If you relax, God shows you the way. ♥

♥ A.~ ♥

Instinct

The Heart is a funny thing.. They say that the heart has the power to rule the mind. in which i tend to agree to an extent.

We do get led blindly when our heart's involved but i also believe that's a decision we make. Its almost a contradiction when it come to mind and heart. They never agree. We feel something strongly such as love and in our minds we look for negatives. And sometimes vice verse. We want to love that we don't think and we just react with the heart.

When your heart and your mind are in sync than its a good sign that things are good, but when they are not, instinct is kicking in. Something is wrong. it might be something small, something uncharacteristic even for yourself, but if its kicking up in you than no matter how small, its something you need to analyze.

We tend to stray on wrong paths but no matter what, we do learn our lessons and become stronger for it. So in a way that wrong path might have been a right path for you for that reason.

Life is a funny turn of events, obstacles and lessons to be learned. Sometimes it feels like you are being tested. Maybe you are. The objective is to follow whats right, whether its your heart or your mind telling you, listen. That small thing that is kicking at you, may lead to something bigger down the road.

Your instinct is your biggest savior and the best tool you have in life. use it wisely and try not to ignore it. Your heart will get you where you need to be in the end. Your mind will always turn wheels, but your gut feeling is going to be the decision of who and what you are and where you will end up being. And being safe, happy and comfortable is where you need to be, even if that means pain during the process.

Just remember our hearts heal, our minds grow, and we strengthen everyday. What is not meant will not be, no matter how hard you want it to be. What will be, will be.

A.~ ♥

Analyzing Fear

Fear, is a common human emotion. And being human ,it is as complex and difficult to analyze as love and hate, greed, passion. Emotions have both causes and effects. It is both learned and instinctive and very often contains no true emotional root. Behavior is much more simple, if not more basic, than emotion.

And thats how we make our own patterns and choices, and why we react differently to each one. Their is no right or wrong, it is its own category.

For some, isolation is a survival technique because of the complexities of emotions, or the not being able to distinguish what behaviors are which. Non-involvement, disassociation.

For example, you have someone lying on a sidewalk, the reactions will vary. People will look away, step around, some might hesitate before hurrying past. But one person will eventually stop, try to help.

This one person will break the isolation and others will begin to stop too. Once the isolation is breached, it becomes easier, even necessary for others to join. Its the first step thats the most difficult.

This technique was used and studied and termed 'urban survival.' Avoiding eye contact on the street, of blocking the homeless out of your line of sight.

So what makes that one person different that they stopped to help? Their survival instincts aren't as well honed as their compassion, or their impulse button is more easily pushed. Their not afraid to become 'involved.'

How often do we walk away, turn our heads or try to avoid certain circumstances, situations. How often do you wonder if you could have done something, but end up telling yourself 'theirs nothing i could have done.' Do you Believe that, or is that another instinct to keep us intact because we ignored compassion and went to grief. feeling sorry for ones self. We make someone else's misfortune our own, and that makes it selfish.

We judge what we don't know and walk past what we don't want to see, but that one person who stops, who doesn't judge, that is impulsive and compassionate will not. They are the ones who make the difference, even if its to make others join in. So when you hear, 'can one person make a difference', answer it wisely, and than ask yourself this...

"Can I Make a Difference." and change your perspective. Most is ingrained and learned behaviors, but thats where emotions come in. Use them, and use them correctly for good. Never Fear, because you lose parts of yourself when you do. Be scared when your instincts tell you, but never Fear for falsification, such as what others will think...

♥ ~A.~ ♥

Lies

"Every lie is a poison; there are no harmless lies. Only the truth is safe. Only the truth gives me consolation - it is the one unbreakable diamond."

— Leo Tolstoy

I was going through some old things of mine from when i was a child. One was a book on Tolstoy so i'm using it, because it had such an impact on me at 12 years old. i believe no matter what age, if you open yourself to it, Anything can have an impact on you..

how many times can you count on your hands that you have lied. I bet your hands aren't enough to count on. I have always been told, to lie is to punish yourself. and its true.

You lie and it comes out. and its never in a good way, when it comes out, its deeper, and the meaning is now worse. The longer the lie goes, the more it progresses, the worse the outcome. you can say it follows the form of Karma. The point being, wouldn't it be easier and nicer to just have truth. It really is safe for all parties involved and it does give consolation. Because it says "i'm real', and that you have compassion.

"To get rid of an enemy one must love him. "

— Leo Tolstoy

In many cases we come across enemies, known or not, who go around with lies. But the lies are not about you. They are aimed at you with the intention to hurt you, but the truth is, you need knowledge. So think this through.. Where does a lie stem from..

It has to have truth in it somewhere. It has to have that safety zone somewhere in it.. and it does, just not for you. The lie being told of you is just that.. a lie. But for the person who is telling the lie, it is the truth of themselves. It stems from within you. You don't come up with something from nothing. Its not a behavioral pattern, not a learned behavior nor does it have to do with emotions. Its a truth of someone, who takes it and aims it at someone else out of emotion, such as hate.. Remember that. and remember to be careful to which you believe.

"They've got no idea what happiness is, they don't know that without this love there is no happiness or unhappiness for us--there is no life."

— Leo Tolstoy (Anna Karenina)

Love is such a powerful emotion that Hate does stem from it. Unfortunately when something is that powerful, there is always something that comes from it thats not always healthy. such as obsession. One will 'hate' another but in reality its a form of obsession, jealousy, greed. So they will tell lies about this person when in fact their exposing their own truths. they will try to destroy this person, but what is not understood is that happiness cannot be touched. You cannot destroy what is. If your truly happy, if you have love (and that doesn't always mean a relationship, you have love for yourself, you have love for others, friends, family and so on) and you have life, than Nothing will touch you. It may disturb you that someone feels so strongly about you, but never let it get farther than that. Or you will fall to their level and live in unhappiness, have no life.

"I sit on a man's back choking him and making him carry me, and yet assure myself and others that i am sorry for him and wish to lighten his load by all means possible....except by getting off his back."

— Leo Tolstoy

As much as we want to make someone pay for their wrong doings, their actions, we don't have the right. As a human its a natural reaction to want to, but as a person, its the actions you take that tells you who you are. You go for revenge and your no better than the person your after. you go down their route with words, your no better in mind and spirit. Your falling into their own path of unhappiness.

Theres nothing wrong with knowing whats going on, but let the judgment and the punishment be done by a higher authority. Never let yourself get down to their level, because than you would have to have revenge on yourself... Let the lies be what they are, and let them expose themselves and watch the mystery resolve in front of you - without having had to do anything but be the better person.

Its easier to fight back, but it takes true courage and strength to walk away. xo

"The best stories don't come from "good vs. bad" but "good vs. good."

— Leo Tolstoy ♥ Let no one and nothing define you but you yourself and what you really are. What you do will let others know truth. You have nothing more to prove other than to yourself, that you have the strength and courage to walk away and understand your the better person. Down the line a great story will evolve from it and people will learn from it. Be The Inspiration, not just an example. ♥

A.~

Real Drama..

If i asked you what drama means, what you be able to give me an answer that co-oberates with others? Or should i tell you that every answer that i would get would be different..

Drama started as 'dramatics' used in theater. So how did it come about that its used so often about anything and everything just because someone is angry..?

People hear drama and immediately think "someone is starting $hit." And that there is going to be some sort of argument coming along. But is that really what it means? I hear at least 3x a day someone is being dramatic and its always three different things. one being, someone telling a story thats sad and is being called dramatic for sharing that story. Two is the disagreement between two people which leads to someone in that argument Having to be the cause, and is causing' drama, three being negativity being thrown in every different direction. insults, or whatever you coincide with negativity.. that person doing the tossing is being dramatic.

So really are any of these terminologies right? i don't think so.

Drama is acting. Theatrics. You ever watch a soap opera? the "drama" in it. Its the intense factor that pulls people into the show,, that's drama. the dramatics are what catch your attention and make you addicted for the 'whats next'. Its someone being able to manipulate a situation and make it into what they want it to be in a severe way. Its not easy to have drama, but when there is so much of it people catch on and its now what they know..

But people use the word drama and the meaning to often and wrong. Its now used as an insult. I have sat and defended countless people to hear: "your causing Drama.".. Really, well if i'm causing drama, i would like my own studio set, trailer to get ready and a nice commission off it. Because if not, i'm not really doing drama. I'm not acting, i'm not telling no sad stories or you'd be crying, and i damn well am not fighting for the hell of it.

When i defend someone, i care for that person, and i defend what and who love. i defend honor, integrity and what i stand for. i don't spit words than turn around and see someone say the opposite and say nothing. that would make me a hypocrite and i don't like to be something i'm not.

Everyone has a perfect right to their opinions but thats where the problem lye's in. They think their fact. I don't care if you have a PH.D- you have no fact. everything is based on opinion and theory and therefore people have rights to believe in which they want. But to sit there and think otherwise, and have the "God complex' is pushing limits. You have no right to judge. to think you know all. to think you know best and you damn well have no right to put anyone down at any time for any reason.

Thats ignorance not drama.

Thats insecurity not drama

Thats being scared, not drama.

Thats not being able to make a point- so you say ' your causing drama'

I've noticed in debates (arguments) people always end up saying to the other 'your just causing drama' But in reality the truth is the point was made by someone and the person saying that is not only threatened but proved ignorant and has nothing else to say. so there goes the drama word being dropped.

i'm tired of hearing that word. Drama. People don't know the meaning, its just a means to your own end so you say it. But its just negativity, its just insecurity coming out and you panicking. So next time you see it, hear it, you know why. and now you know the true meaning.

I write opinions, theories or what i see, do, and believe. I don't say i am all fact and nothing but right. in fact i always invite people to say differently and share their own opinions or theories if they don't like mine. I've had it done in negative ways and so i deleted it, but otherwise i welcome it. Criticism is the best way to learn and grow. its also makes you stronger for being able to handle it.

Try to keep the D' word out of your vocab, and see what a difference it makes. People will act more positive and treat you more respectively. And do stand up for what you think or believe is right. Don't be afraid to not to because of that word, or for fear of what people think. Your not doing something if your not hearing nothing..

Live, Learn, Love A.~

A true Survivor

Survivor; how many get this title and who do you think qualifies as a true survivor..

I can say i have known many survivors and still do. A true survivor is someone who chooses to live through the worst of times and come out on top at the end of it. It does not matter what those times may be, for difficult is different for everyone. Some have gone through the physical aspect of it. Disease, Cancer, Brain damage, Paralysis, and so on. These people are the very reason many gather together for events to find cures. They inspire strength and courage and all of them whether they make it or not; are survivors.

The other physical aspect is abuse, but it also falls into the mental. Abuse takes a toll on people. Whether if its from young at age or adult, abuse is abuse. People have no right to lay hands on anyone but themselves unless given the permission.

Domestic Violence tops the charts along with child abuse. Neither is acceptable but these kids will endure it because no one can stop it even though we shall try (unless your one to turn you head and look the other way). Its the same with adults. Violence in any form is violence and those who come out of it are indeed survivors for it.

The mental aspect of it is so deep that no one can understand unless they have been through it, how traumatizing it can be. But it doesn't end at physical.

Mental abuse, the putting down of someone(s), belittling, bullying, etc.. is just as bad as the physical, sometimes worse. And these people to endure it.. they too are survivors.

What we don't understand is that all of us has been through something and have come out of it which makes us a survivor, but its not that easy. The ones that are not survivors are those who choose to go down the wrong path.

Haters for example are an object of some type of abuse. They envy and they feed off others misery so they don't have to feel their own, Or they play their sympathy coin so that others fall into their trap of abuse and will be used.

These are not survivors, they never made it. A piece of them died a long time ago. and will continue to die as the go down the path they choose. But its their choice and no matter how much you try to help them, it comes down to them. If one chooses not to accept or want (need) help they will never change. You leave it at that, or you get sucked into their game.

We all have the potential to survive, but its a choice, an option that only you can make. We all will endure tough ventures to the point of 'make it or break it' and the choice of coming out on top, stronger and better for it is what makes you a SURVIVOR. Be proud of that but never take advantage of it.

When you think your alone during your venture, know that someone else is going through the exact same thing at the same time. no one is ever alone, should never feel alone. And remember that God does not do this to us, Man does. But embrace God because He sees, He hears. He is there and will help. He will guide you but you must be open and willing to embrace him. Let Love always be and Hate die.

♥ always. A.~