Alice in Wonderland (1951)

Alice in Wonderland has a great significance. in every line throughout the movie, they are actually quotes with powerful meanings. In 1951 when the original came out, that was the sole purpose of the film for children to enjoy the pictures but to understand as they grew that nothing is normal. That all those questions in the movie and all those 'quotes' are indeed part of life...:

Cheshire Cat: Oh, by the way, if you'd really like to know, he went that way. Alice: Who did? Cheshire Cat: The White Rabbit. Alice: He did? Cheshire Cat: He did what? Alice: Went that way. Cheshire Cat: Who did? Alice: The White Rabbit. Cheshire Cat: What rabbit? Alice: But didn't you just say - I mean - Oh, dear. Cheshire Cat: Can you stand on your head? Alice: Oh!

[Alice falls down the rabbit hole and her dress poofs up like a parachute] Alice: Well, after this I should think nothing of falling down stairs.

White Rabbit: [singing] I'm late / I'm late / For a very important date. / No time to say "Hello." / Goodbye. / I'm late, I'm late, I'm late.

Alice: If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary-wise; what it is it wouldn't be, and what it wouldn't be, it would. You see?

Daisy: What kind of a garden do you come from? Alice: Oh, I don't come from any garden. Daisy: Do you suppose she's a wildflower?

Cheshire Cat: If I were looking for a white rabbit, I'd ask the Mad Hatter. Alice: The Mad Hatter? Oh, no no no... Cheshire Cat: Or, you could ask the March Hare, in that direction. Alice: Oh, thank you. I think I'll see him... Cheshire Cat: Of course, he's mad, too. Alice: But I don't want to go among mad people. Cheshire Cat: Oh, you can't help that. Most everyone's mad here. [laughs maniacally; starts to disappear] Cheshire Cat: You may have noticed that I'm not all there myself.

Walrus: The time has come, my little friends, to talk of other things / Of shoes and ships and sealing wax, of cabbages and kings / And why the sea is boiling hot, and whether pigs have wigs / Calloo, Callay, come run away / With the cabbages and kings.

Doorknob: Read the directions and directly you will be directed in the right direction.

Alice: It would be so nice if something would make sense for a change.

March Hare: There's only one way to stop a MAD WATCH.

March Hare: I have an excellent idea, LETS CHANGE THE SUBJECT.

Queen of Hearts: Off with their heads.

Queen of Hearts: Who's been painting my roses red? WHO'S BEEN PAINTING MY ROSES RED? /Who dares to taint / With vulgar paint / The royal flower bed? / For painting my roses red / Someone will lose his head. Card Painter: Oh please, your majesty, please! It's all his fault! Card Painter: Not me, your grace! The ace, the ace! Queen of Hearts: You? Card Painter: No, two! Queen of Hearts: The two, you say? Card Painter: Not me! The three! Queen of Hearts: That's enough! Off with their heads!

White Rabbit: We need a lazard with a liddle... a lad... can you help us? Bill: At your service, gov'nor. Dodo: Bill, my lad. Have you ever been down a chimney? Bill: Why, gov'nor, I've been down more chimneys... Dodo: Excellent, excellent. Now just hop down the chimney and pull that monster out of there. Bill: Righto, gov'nor... Monster? Aaaaah!

Mad Hatter: Would you like a little more tea? Alice: Well, I haven't had any yet, so I can't very well take more. March Hare: Ah, you mean you can't very well take less. Mad Hatter: Yes. You can always take more than nothing.

Doorknob: D'ooooh! Alice: Oh! I beg your pardon... Doorknob: Quite all right, but you did give me quite a turn. Alice: You see, I was chasing this... Doorknob: Rather good, what? Doorknob? Turn? Since one good turn deserves another, what can I do for you?

Dodo: I say, you'll never get dry that way. Alice: Get dry? Dodo: Have to run with the others. First rule of a caucus race, you know.

Alice: Well, when I was lost, I suppose it's good advice to stay where you are until someone finds you. But who'd ever think to look for me here? [sigh] Alice: Good advice. If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it.

Tweedle Dum: If you think we're waxworks, you ought to pay, you know. Tweedle Dee: Contrarywise, if you think we're alive you ought to speak to us. Tweedle Dee, Tweedle Dum: That's logic.

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Dormouse: Twinkle twinkle, little bat / How I wonder what you're at? / Up above the world you fly / Like a tea tray in the sky.

Alice: Unbirthday? I'm sorry, but I don't quite understand. March Hare: It's very simple. Now, thirty days has Septem -No. wait... An unbirthday, if you have a birthday, then you - [laughs] March Hare: She doesn't know what an unbirthday is.

Alice: Curiouser and curiouser.

Mad Hatter: Oh yes mustard! That'll do... Mustard? Don't let's be silly. Now lemon, that's different...

Alice: I'm sorry I interrupted your birthday party. Thank you. March Hare: Birthday? My dear child, this is NOT a birthday party. Mad Hatter: Of course not. This is an unbirthday party.

Mad Hatter: Clean cup, clean cup. Move down.

Queen of Hearts: I warn you dear child, if I lose my temper, you lose your head. Understand?

[after they have restrained the Dormouse] Mad Hatter: Ah thank goodness! Those are the things that upset me! March Hare: See all the trouble you started? Alice: But I didn't think... March Hare: Ah, that's just it. If you don't think, then you shouldn't talk.

Alice: Oh, but that's nonsense. Flowers can't talk. The Rose: But of course we can talk, my dear. Orchid: If there's anyone around worth talking to. Daisy: Or about. [giggles]

The Rose: Just what species or, shall we say, genus are you, my dear? Alice: Well, I guess you would call me... genus, humanus... Alice. Daisy: Ever see an alice with a blossom like that? Orchid: Come to think of it, did you ever see an alice? Daisy: Yes, and did you notice her petals? What a peculiar color. Orchid: [sniffing Alice's hair] And no fragrance. Daisy: [chuckling, as she lifts up one side of Alice's dress] And just look at those stems. The Rose: [as Alice slaps the Daisy's leaves away] Rather scrawny, I'd say. Bud: I think she's pretty. The Rose: Quiet, bud. Share this quote Alice: Better read it first, for if one drinks much from a bottle marked "Poison", it's almost certain to disagree with one sooner or later.

Caterpillar: Who... are... you? Alice: Why, I hardly know, sir. I've changed so much since this morning, you see... Caterpillar: No, I do not C, explain yourself. Alice: I'm afraid I can't explain myself, you see, because I'm not myself, you know. Caterpillar: I do not know. Alice: I can't put it any more clearly, sir, because it isn't clear to me.

Mad Hatter: Why is a raven like a writing desk? Alice: Riddles? Now let me see... why is a raven like a writing desk? Mad Hatter: I beg your pardon? Alice: Why is a raven like a writing desk? Mad Hatter: [alarmed] Why is a what? March Hare: Careful, she's stark ravin' mad! Alice: But it's your silly riddle. You just said... Mad Hatter: Easy, don't get excited! March Hare: How about a nice cup of tea? Alice: "Have a cup of tea," indeed! Well I'm sorry, but I just haven't the time!

Mad Hatter: No wonder you're late. Why, this watch is exactly two days slow.

Alice: In my world, the books would be nothing but pictures.

Alice: Curiosity often leads to trouble.

Alice: I simply must get through! Doorknob: Sorry, you're much too big. Simply impassible. Alice: You mean impossible? Doorknob: No, impassible. Nothing's impossible.

White Rabbit: Why, Mary Ann! What are you doing out here? Alice: Mary Ann? White Rabbit: Don't just do something, stand there... Uh... no no! Go go! Go get my gloves! I'm late! Alice: But late for what? That's just what I... White Rabbit: My gloves! [Blows trumpet] White Rabbit: At once, do you hear! Alice: Goodness. I suppose I'll be taking orders from Dinah next.

Dodo: [singing] We'll blow the thing there out, we'll smoke the monster out!

Alice: You can learn a lot of things from the flowers... Huh! Seems to me they could learn a few things about manners!

Caterpillar: Who are you?

Caterpillar: Recite. Alice: Oh. Yes sir. How doth the little bumblebee improve each... Caterpillar: Stop. That is not spoken correctically. It goes: How doth the little crocodile improve his shining tail. And pour the waters of the Nile, on every golden scale. How cheerfully he seems to grin, how neatly spreads his claws. And welcomes little fishes in, with gently smiling jaws. Alice: Well, I must say, I've never heard it that way before. Caterpillar: I know. I have improoooved it. Share this quote Caterpillar: By the way, I have a few more helpful hints. One side will make you grow taller... Alice: One side of what? Caterpillar: ...and the other side will make you grow shorter. Alice: The other side of what? Caterpillar: THE MUSHROOM, OF COURSE!

Alice: I was sitting on the riverbank with uh... with you know who... Mad Hatter: I DO? Alice: I mean my C-A-T. Mad Hatter: Tea? March Hare: [slices a tea cup in half] Just half a cup, if you don't mind.

Mad Hatter: Do you care for tea? Alice: Why, yes. I'm very fond of tea. March Hare: If you don't care for tea, you could at least make polite conversation!

Alice: When I get home I shall write a book about this place... If I ever do get home.

Cheshire Cat: All ways here you see, are the QUEEN'S WAYS! Alice: But I've never met any queen. Cheshire Cat: You haven't? You ha-VEN'T? Oh, but you must! She'll be mad about you, simply mad! [chuckles, then rolls over and almost disappears] Cheshire Cat: The romeraths' outgrabe... Alice: Please, please! H-How can I find her? Cheshire Cat: Well, some go this way, and some go that way. But as for me, myself, personally, I prefer the short-cut.

Cheshire Cat: You know? We could make her *really* angry! Shall we try? Alice: Oh, no, no! Cheshire Cat: Oh, but it's loads of fun!

Alice: [as a giant] And as for you, your majesty! Your majesty indeed! Why, you're not a queen, [shrinking] Alice: You're just a fat, pompous, bad tempered old ty... [normal size] Alice: tyrant... Queen of Hearts: [giggles] And uh, just what were you saying, my dear? Cheshire Cat: Why, she simply said that you're a fat, pompous, bad tempered old tyrant!

Queen of Hearts: Now then, are you ready for your sentence? Alice: But there has to be a verdict first. Queen of Hearts: Sentence first! Verdict afterwards. Alice: But that just isn't the way. Queen of Hearts: [shouting] All ways are...! Alice: ...your ways, your Majesty.

Cheshire Cat: [singing] 'Twas brilig, and the slithy toves / Did gyre and gimble in the wabe: / All mimsy were the borogroves, / And the mome raths outgrabe. Alice: Now where do you suppose...? Cheshire Cat: Lose something? Alice: [turns around to find just the Cat's smile talking to her] Oh my! oh, no no, I was just... uh never mind. Cheshire Cat: Oh, that's quite all right. One moment please. [two eyes drop down on top of the mouth and the full cat form appears] Cheshire Cat: Second chorus. [singing] Cheshire Cat: 'Twas brilig, and the slithy toves / Did gyre and gimble in the wabe Alice: Why, why you're a cat! Cheshire Cat: A *Cheshire* Cat. [starts to disappear] Cheshire Cat: All mimsy were the borogroves... Alice: Oh wait! Cheshire Cat: [reappears] There you are! Third chorus... Alice: Oh, no, no. I was just wondering if you could help me find my way. Cheshire Cat: Well that depends on where you want to get to. Alice: Oh, it really doesn't matter, as long as... Cheshire Cat: Then it really doesn't matter which way you go.

King of Hearts: What do you know about this unfortunate affair? March Hare: Nothing. Queen of Hearts: Nothing whatever? March Hare: Nothing whatever! Queen of Hearts: [shouts] That's very important! Jury, write that down!

[the Caterpillar has called a very frustrated Alice back so he can finish the conversation] Alice: ...Well? Caterpillar: ...Keep your temper. Alice: Is that all? Caterpillar: No. "Exaketededly" what is your problem? Alice: Well its exak... exact... Its precisely this. I should like to be a little larger, sir. Caterpillar: Why? Alice: Well, after all, three inches is such a wretched height, and... Caterpillar: [suddenly angry] I am "exaketededly" three inches high, and it is a very good height indeed! Alice: But I'm not used to it. And you needn't *shout*!

Bird in the Tree: A serpent! Help! Help! Serpent! Serpeeent! Alice: But please! Please! Bird in the Tree: Off with you! Shoo! Shoo! Help! Serpent! Alice: I'm not a serpent. Bird in the Tree: You're not? Then just what are you? Alice: I'm just a little girl. Bird in the Tree: Little? Little? [laughs] Alice: Well, I am... I mean, I was. Bird in the Tree: And I suppose you don't like eggs, either? Alice: Yes, I like eggs, but... Bird in the Tree: Aha! I knew it! I knew it! A serpent! Serpent! Serpeeeent! Alice: Oh, for goodness sake!

Alice: [after the Warlus and the Carpenter] That was a very sad story. Tweedle Dee: Aye, but there's a moral to it. Alice: Oh, a very good moral, if you happen to be an oyster.

Queen of Hearts: Now, where do you come from? Alice: Well, I'm trying to find my way home... Queen of Hearts: Your way? All ways here are my ways! Alice: Yes, I know, but I was just thinking... Queen of Hearts: Curtsy while you're thinking. It saves time. Alice: [curtsying] Yes, Your Majesty, but I just wanted to ask you... Queen of Hearts: I'll ask the questions! Do you play croquet? Alice: Why, yes, Your Majesty. Queen of Hearts: Then let the game begin!

White Rabbit: Her Imperial Highness, Her Grace, Her Excellency, Her Royal Majesty, the Queen of Hearts! [Crowd cheers] White Rabbit: ... And the King. Voice in crowd: Hooray!

Alice: Well, it all started when I was sitting on the river bank with Dinah. March Hare: Very interesting - Who's Dinah? [Pants lasciviously] Alice: Oh, Dinah's my cat. You see... Dormouse: Cat? CAT!

Alice: Of all the silly nonsense, this is the stupidest tea party I've ever been to in all my life.

Orchid: To put it bluntly, a weed.

White Rabbit: Your Majesty, members of the jury, loyal subjects... and the King... the prisoner at the bar stands accused of enticing Her Majesty, the Queen of Hearts, into a game of croquet, thereby and with malice of forethought, molesting, tormenting, and otherwise annoying our beloved... Queen of Hearts: Never mind all that! Get to the part where I lose my temper. White Rabbit: ...thereby causing the Queen to lose her temper.

Queen of Hearts: And who is this? King of Hearts: Let me see, my dear. It's certainly not a heart. Do you suppose it's a club?

King of Hearts: Rule 42: All persons more than a mile high must leave the court immediately. Alice: I am not a mile high, and I'm not leaving. Queen of Hearts: Sorry. Rule 42, you know.

Queen of Hearts: [after the Queen of Hearts is hit in the head and covered in the table cloth] Someone's head IS GOING TO ROLL FOR THIS!

March Hare: Why don't you start at the begining? Mad Hatter: Yes and when you reach the end... Stop.

Alice: [after eating a mushroom] I'm tired of being only three inches high. [suddenly grows out of control] Alice: Yi-yi-yi-yi-yi-yi-yi-yi-yi-yi!

[Alice reaches the door to escape from the mob] Doorknob: [tries to open the door] D'oh! Still locked you know! Alice: [in horror] But the queen! I simply must get out! Doorknob: [chuckles] But you *are* outside. Alice: What? Doorknob: [opens his mouth] See for yourself. [Alice sees through his mouth and sees herself asleep with Dinah also sleeping on her lap by a tree in a beautiful meadow] Alice: Why - why that's me! I'm asleep! Queen of Hearts: [shout from a distance] Don't let her get away! Off with her head! Alice: [in terror, through the Doorknob's mouth] Alice, wake up! Please, wake up, Alice! Queen of Hearts: [comes closer with the other mob] Off with her head! Alice: Alice! Please, wake up, Alice! [as the mob draws nearer, the screen goes into multicolor until it shows Alice sleeping by the tree] Alice: Alice! Alice! Alice! Alice's sister: [changes to her sister's] Alice! Alice! Will you kindly pay attention and recite your lesson.

Tweedle Dee, Tweedle Dum: [singing together] How do ya do and shake hands, shake hands, shake hands. How do ya do and shake hands and state your name and business. [both spoken] Tweedle Dee, Tweedle Dum: That's manners!

Alice: [turning down an offer for a cup of tea] I'm sorry, but I just haven't the time! March Hare: The time! The time! Who's got the time? Share this quote Mad Hatter: [after "fixing" the White Rabbit's watch] Two days slow, that's what it is.

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Alice's sister: [reading from a history book] "... leaders, and had been of late much accustomed to usurpation and conquest. Edwin and Morcar, the earls of Mercia and Northumbria, declared for him: and even Stigand..." Alice. [camera zooms out to show Alice sitting in a tree, playing with Dinah and making a chain of daisies] Alice: Hmm? Oh, I'm listening. Alice's sister: "And even Stigand, the archbishop of Canterbury, agreed to meet with William and offer him the crown. William's conduct at first was moderate." [Alice laughs as her daisy chain falls on her sister's face]

Alice: [drinks from bottle] Mmm... tastes like cherry tart. [shrinks down] Alice: Grapefruit. [shrinks down] Alice: Pineapple. [shrinks down] Alice: Roast turkey. [now at minimum size] Alice: Goodness! What did I do? Doorknob: You almost went out like a candle! Alice: Why, look! I'm just the right size! Doorknob: No use. I forgot to tell you. I'm locked! Alice: Oh no! Doorknob: But of course, you've got the key, so... Alice: What key? Doorknob: Now, don't tell me you've left it up there!

Alice: How doth the little crocodile improve each shining tail and pour the waters of the waterside... Alice's sister: Alice, what *are* you talking about? Alice: Oh. I'm sorry, but you see, the Caterpillar said... Alice's sister: Caterpillar? Oh, for goodness sakes. Alice, I... Oh, well. Come along, it's time for tea.

Non-existent

Perfection is non existent unless you think imperfection is perfection. The eye of the beholder will see what someone else wont because each view is perceived separately.

If your inner beauty doesn't exude through, Than no matter how imperfectly perfect u are, u will never be seen as anything but just imperfect. The heart is the key to pure appeal. Let it shine ♥ Let it glow ♥ let it make you imperfectly Perfect...:

We look to often for perfection. We want it in everything we do, but how can that be possible when it doesn't exist. So in turn we set up for a failure due to our lack of ignorance. When you look in the mirror are you looking at what you want to see, or what you do see. Are you looking into the eyes of the person and the soul that we seem to neglect as well. Are you seeing yourself for who you are or are you seeing what airbrush and cosmetics can do. The major question to ask is are you happy with what you see.

If you are not, than its not the outer image that's the problem now is it. your not happy with who you are. Thats the first thing we forget and the first we tend to dwell on not realizing. The only true person to make you happy is yourself. You should be seeing your heart in your eyes, the soul through the image and be content to know you do all you can and are all you can be. Cliche' maybe.. but it hits the truth.

'Never judge a book by its cover' But how often do we see something/someone and do just that. My point I'm trying to push is that no matter how much you airbrush yourself to be something/someone, unless you are who you are (real and true), doing you and not another's way, and are happy with how you are, where you are, you won't see what you want to.

the perfection you seek is like control.. No one has it nor will they ever. its an illusion we give ourselves to feel like we have power, but in the end you never had it.

Set yourself up for greatness and always be true to yourself. Find contentment with you first than look for it in everything you do. Don't seek, don't search, don't ask, don't knock, don't demand - relax. If you relax, it is there. If you relax, God shows you the way. ♥

♥ A.~ ♥

Instinct

The Heart is a funny thing.. They say that the heart has the power to rule the mind. in which i tend to agree to an extent.

We do get led blindly when our heart's involved but i also believe that's a decision we make. Its almost a contradiction when it come to mind and heart. They never agree. We feel something strongly such as love and in our minds we look for negatives. And sometimes vice verse. We want to love that we don't think and we just react with the heart.

When your heart and your mind are in sync than its a good sign that things are good, but when they are not, instinct is kicking in. Something is wrong. it might be something small, something uncharacteristic even for yourself, but if its kicking up in you than no matter how small, its something you need to analyze.

We tend to stray on wrong paths but no matter what, we do learn our lessons and become stronger for it. So in a way that wrong path might have been a right path for you for that reason.

Life is a funny turn of events, obstacles and lessons to be learned. Sometimes it feels like you are being tested. Maybe you are. The objective is to follow whats right, whether its your heart or your mind telling you, listen. That small thing that is kicking at you, may lead to something bigger down the road.

Your instinct is your biggest savior and the best tool you have in life. use it wisely and try not to ignore it. Your heart will get you where you need to be in the end. Your mind will always turn wheels, but your gut feeling is going to be the decision of who and what you are and where you will end up being. And being safe, happy and comfortable is where you need to be, even if that means pain during the process.

Just remember our hearts heal, our minds grow, and we strengthen everyday. What is not meant will not be, no matter how hard you want it to be. What will be, will be.

A.~ ♥

Analyzing Fear

Fear, is a common human emotion. And being human ,it is as complex and difficult to analyze as love and hate, greed, passion. Emotions have both causes and effects. It is both learned and instinctive and very often contains no true emotional root. Behavior is much more simple, if not more basic, than emotion.

And thats how we make our own patterns and choices, and why we react differently to each one. Their is no right or wrong, it is its own category.

For some, isolation is a survival technique because of the complexities of emotions, or the not being able to distinguish what behaviors are which. Non-involvement, disassociation.

For example, you have someone lying on a sidewalk, the reactions will vary. People will look away, step around, some might hesitate before hurrying past. But one person will eventually stop, try to help.

This one person will break the isolation and others will begin to stop too. Once the isolation is breached, it becomes easier, even necessary for others to join. Its the first step thats the most difficult.

This technique was used and studied and termed 'urban survival.' Avoiding eye contact on the street, of blocking the homeless out of your line of sight.

So what makes that one person different that they stopped to help? Their survival instincts aren't as well honed as their compassion, or their impulse button is more easily pushed. Their not afraid to become 'involved.'

How often do we walk away, turn our heads or try to avoid certain circumstances, situations. How often do you wonder if you could have done something, but end up telling yourself 'theirs nothing i could have done.' Do you Believe that, or is that another instinct to keep us intact because we ignored compassion and went to grief. feeling sorry for ones self. We make someone else's misfortune our own, and that makes it selfish.

We judge what we don't know and walk past what we don't want to see, but that one person who stops, who doesn't judge, that is impulsive and compassionate will not. They are the ones who make the difference, even if its to make others join in. So when you hear, 'can one person make a difference', answer it wisely, and than ask yourself this...

"Can I Make a Difference." and change your perspective. Most is ingrained and learned behaviors, but thats where emotions come in. Use them, and use them correctly for good. Never Fear, because you lose parts of yourself when you do. Be scared when your instincts tell you, but never Fear for falsification, such as what others will think...

♥ ~A.~ ♥

Lies

"Every lie is a poison; there are no harmless lies. Only the truth is safe. Only the truth gives me consolation - it is the one unbreakable diamond."

— Leo Tolstoy

I was going through some old things of mine from when i was a child. One was a book on Tolstoy so i'm using it, because it had such an impact on me at 12 years old. i believe no matter what age, if you open yourself to it, Anything can have an impact on you..

how many times can you count on your hands that you have lied. I bet your hands aren't enough to count on. I have always been told, to lie is to punish yourself. and its true.

You lie and it comes out. and its never in a good way, when it comes out, its deeper, and the meaning is now worse. The longer the lie goes, the more it progresses, the worse the outcome. you can say it follows the form of Karma. The point being, wouldn't it be easier and nicer to just have truth. It really is safe for all parties involved and it does give consolation. Because it says "i'm real', and that you have compassion.

"To get rid of an enemy one must love him. "

— Leo Tolstoy

In many cases we come across enemies, known or not, who go around with lies. But the lies are not about you. They are aimed at you with the intention to hurt you, but the truth is, you need knowledge. So think this through.. Where does a lie stem from..

It has to have truth in it somewhere. It has to have that safety zone somewhere in it.. and it does, just not for you. The lie being told of you is just that.. a lie. But for the person who is telling the lie, it is the truth of themselves. It stems from within you. You don't come up with something from nothing. Its not a behavioral pattern, not a learned behavior nor does it have to do with emotions. Its a truth of someone, who takes it and aims it at someone else out of emotion, such as hate.. Remember that. and remember to be careful to which you believe.

"They've got no idea what happiness is, they don't know that without this love there is no happiness or unhappiness for us--there is no life."

— Leo Tolstoy (Anna Karenina)

Love is such a powerful emotion that Hate does stem from it. Unfortunately when something is that powerful, there is always something that comes from it thats not always healthy. such as obsession. One will 'hate' another but in reality its a form of obsession, jealousy, greed. So they will tell lies about this person when in fact their exposing their own truths. they will try to destroy this person, but what is not understood is that happiness cannot be touched. You cannot destroy what is. If your truly happy, if you have love (and that doesn't always mean a relationship, you have love for yourself, you have love for others, friends, family and so on) and you have life, than Nothing will touch you. It may disturb you that someone feels so strongly about you, but never let it get farther than that. Or you will fall to their level and live in unhappiness, have no life.

"I sit on a man's back choking him and making him carry me, and yet assure myself and others that i am sorry for him and wish to lighten his load by all means possible....except by getting off his back."

— Leo Tolstoy

As much as we want to make someone pay for their wrong doings, their actions, we don't have the right. As a human its a natural reaction to want to, but as a person, its the actions you take that tells you who you are. You go for revenge and your no better than the person your after. you go down their route with words, your no better in mind and spirit. Your falling into their own path of unhappiness.

Theres nothing wrong with knowing whats going on, but let the judgment and the punishment be done by a higher authority. Never let yourself get down to their level, because than you would have to have revenge on yourself... Let the lies be what they are, and let them expose themselves and watch the mystery resolve in front of you - without having had to do anything but be the better person.

Its easier to fight back, but it takes true courage and strength to walk away. xo

"The best stories don't come from "good vs. bad" but "good vs. good."

— Leo Tolstoy ♥ Let no one and nothing define you but you yourself and what you really are. What you do will let others know truth. You have nothing more to prove other than to yourself, that you have the strength and courage to walk away and understand your the better person. Down the line a great story will evolve from it and people will learn from it. Be The Inspiration, not just an example. ♥

A.~

Real Drama..

If i asked you what drama means, what you be able to give me an answer that co-oberates with others? Or should i tell you that every answer that i would get would be different..

Drama started as 'dramatics' used in theater. So how did it come about that its used so often about anything and everything just because someone is angry..?

People hear drama and immediately think "someone is starting $hit." And that there is going to be some sort of argument coming along. But is that really what it means? I hear at least 3x a day someone is being dramatic and its always three different things. one being, someone telling a story thats sad and is being called dramatic for sharing that story. Two is the disagreement between two people which leads to someone in that argument Having to be the cause, and is causing' drama, three being negativity being thrown in every different direction. insults, or whatever you coincide with negativity.. that person doing the tossing is being dramatic.

So really are any of these terminologies right? i don't think so.

Drama is acting. Theatrics. You ever watch a soap opera? the "drama" in it. Its the intense factor that pulls people into the show,, that's drama. the dramatics are what catch your attention and make you addicted for the 'whats next'. Its someone being able to manipulate a situation and make it into what they want it to be in a severe way. Its not easy to have drama, but when there is so much of it people catch on and its now what they know..

But people use the word drama and the meaning to often and wrong. Its now used as an insult. I have sat and defended countless people to hear: "your causing Drama.".. Really, well if i'm causing drama, i would like my own studio set, trailer to get ready and a nice commission off it. Because if not, i'm not really doing drama. I'm not acting, i'm not telling no sad stories or you'd be crying, and i damn well am not fighting for the hell of it.

When i defend someone, i care for that person, and i defend what and who love. i defend honor, integrity and what i stand for. i don't spit words than turn around and see someone say the opposite and say nothing. that would make me a hypocrite and i don't like to be something i'm not.

Everyone has a perfect right to their opinions but thats where the problem lye's in. They think their fact. I don't care if you have a PH.D- you have no fact. everything is based on opinion and theory and therefore people have rights to believe in which they want. But to sit there and think otherwise, and have the "God complex' is pushing limits. You have no right to judge. to think you know all. to think you know best and you damn well have no right to put anyone down at any time for any reason.

Thats ignorance not drama.

Thats insecurity not drama

Thats being scared, not drama.

Thats not being able to make a point- so you say ' your causing drama'

I've noticed in debates (arguments) people always end up saying to the other 'your just causing drama' But in reality the truth is the point was made by someone and the person saying that is not only threatened but proved ignorant and has nothing else to say. so there goes the drama word being dropped.

i'm tired of hearing that word. Drama. People don't know the meaning, its just a means to your own end so you say it. But its just negativity, its just insecurity coming out and you panicking. So next time you see it, hear it, you know why. and now you know the true meaning.

I write opinions, theories or what i see, do, and believe. I don't say i am all fact and nothing but right. in fact i always invite people to say differently and share their own opinions or theories if they don't like mine. I've had it done in negative ways and so i deleted it, but otherwise i welcome it. Criticism is the best way to learn and grow. its also makes you stronger for being able to handle it.

Try to keep the D' word out of your vocab, and see what a difference it makes. People will act more positive and treat you more respectively. And do stand up for what you think or believe is right. Don't be afraid to not to because of that word, or for fear of what people think. Your not doing something if your not hearing nothing..

Live, Learn, Love A.~

A true Survivor

Survivor; how many get this title and who do you think qualifies as a true survivor..

I can say i have known many survivors and still do. A true survivor is someone who chooses to live through the worst of times and come out on top at the end of it. It does not matter what those times may be, for difficult is different for everyone. Some have gone through the physical aspect of it. Disease, Cancer, Brain damage, Paralysis, and so on. These people are the very reason many gather together for events to find cures. They inspire strength and courage and all of them whether they make it or not; are survivors.

The other physical aspect is abuse, but it also falls into the mental. Abuse takes a toll on people. Whether if its from young at age or adult, abuse is abuse. People have no right to lay hands on anyone but themselves unless given the permission.

Domestic Violence tops the charts along with child abuse. Neither is acceptable but these kids will endure it because no one can stop it even though we shall try (unless your one to turn you head and look the other way). Its the same with adults. Violence in any form is violence and those who come out of it are indeed survivors for it.

The mental aspect of it is so deep that no one can understand unless they have been through it, how traumatizing it can be. But it doesn't end at physical.

Mental abuse, the putting down of someone(s), belittling, bullying, etc.. is just as bad as the physical, sometimes worse. And these people to endure it.. they too are survivors.

What we don't understand is that all of us has been through something and have come out of it which makes us a survivor, but its not that easy. The ones that are not survivors are those who choose to go down the wrong path.

Haters for example are an object of some type of abuse. They envy and they feed off others misery so they don't have to feel their own, Or they play their sympathy coin so that others fall into their trap of abuse and will be used.

These are not survivors, they never made it. A piece of them died a long time ago. and will continue to die as the go down the path they choose. But its their choice and no matter how much you try to help them, it comes down to them. If one chooses not to accept or want (need) help they will never change. You leave it at that, or you get sucked into their game.

We all have the potential to survive, but its a choice, an option that only you can make. We all will endure tough ventures to the point of 'make it or break it' and the choice of coming out on top, stronger and better for it is what makes you a SURVIVOR. Be proud of that but never take advantage of it.

When you think your alone during your venture, know that someone else is going through the exact same thing at the same time. no one is ever alone, should never feel alone. And remember that God does not do this to us, Man does. But embrace God because He sees, He hears. He is there and will help. He will guide you but you must be open and willing to embrace him. Let Love always be and Hate die.

♥ always. A.~

A start, or a Finish..

When faced with a challenge we tend to try to cut corners. For instance.. When we see something getting hard, we look for an easy way out. It’s a natural human reaction. But the reaction is what makes us weak. What we don't realize is sometimes in order to accomplish something, anything, we must use a muscle that we hardly ever work; our brain.

In order to do so you must combine it with your heart and ask the right questions. Such as: Is it worth it? Will I benefit in a positive way from it? Will I be helping someone.. and so on. What we need not to ask, is anything selfish.

To benefit for selfish reasons leads you right back to weakness and cutting those corners. Nothing is meant to be easy and when it is, it’s not worth it. Remember that in order to know true happiness you must know true pain. In order to know truth you must know lies. In order to succeed you must fail and want to attempt again. If you want easy than your life can very well be sad and boring; and it doesn't give you the right to complain.. xx

Shall I..

In our dreams we use our sub-conscious as our guide leading us down a path that follows the heart. we use it without limits or boundaries. In our conscious state, every step we take is calculated, and made with countless thoughts and questions. how often have you asked: 'what ..,where..,but.., how.., why..,should i, could i,would i,...'

We use our limitations as excuses and wonder where true happiness is. I can probably say with good reason that without confirmation, we are lost pretty much most of the time. i want you to follow me on this.. take a second and lets step back and see another way.. worst that can happen is you continue on the way your were, best is we can have another perception, maybe a new way of living

We have the 5 W's (who what where when why) We have the 5 senses (touch smell sight hear taste) remember that..

Some say spontaneity is a useless effort that leads us no where and teaches us nothing. Would you agree though.. if i told you that it comes from the sub conscious reaching out and making you able to 'ease up, let go, or just try something' without the limits or boundaries we tie on it.. With spontaneity there is no permission we usually seek for, there is no guide, there are no questions, there just is and its what you make of it. the outcome is not to be determined but to be used if wanted and learned from. We do not use the 5 W's, we use the 5 Senses and by doing so, we get the full sensation out of it. we learn the answers without asking the questions that just waste time and make you procrastinate.

Hear me when i say this, smell the sweetness of the words, feel it in your heart, taste it with your knowledge, see it in your mind; 'I shall walk through this life with 5 things only as my limits and boundaries. these 5 things will be the only things i ever question or ask of, and these 5 things will be the only thing to hold me back from following my heart.. I shall Speak no Evil. I shall Hear no Evil. I shall See no Evil. I shall not touch Evil. I shall Smell only Heaven and Earth. And with this i will always find my way, never judge, smell only the sweet air, see only the good, hear only the best, do only the wonderful, say only great and feel Always happy and Positive. i shall live as though heaven and earth are one.

But for you, the choice is yours and only yours to make. God laid the foundation for you to walk on, you must do the walking. What i do is i write. i write from my heart and soul but lately i have been tripping on my own foundation because of analyzing, fears and questions. As a person it is normal as we have our guards and walls, but for me its been making me realize that today is today. tomorrow will be tomorrow and questioning the path God has allowed me should not be. I will walk my path and do as i write because to write something, and feel it so strongly is what makes a person who they are. i am who i am. I've never been happier in my life. Now find yours ♥ A.~

Tests of Time

There will be times when all manners of things will be tested of us. these we often refer to as problems, situations, ruts, obstacles, missions, hard times and so on.

Whats being tested is not always clear though. The harder the situation the harder the clarity. And that's okay. Its not meant to be known, its the whole idea of being tested.

Our Faith will constantly be a test for time to come. Its one of the biggest things that people fail on because when times get rough we stop believing and think its God's fault. Well, what about the good times, isn't that God's fault. So are we to blame him for everything bad and see no reason for the goodness and riches that come into our lives. Its about appreciation, another test that is ultimately failed or taken advantage of.

The test of luck and hope. We often give up to easily and blame others for our faults because its easier, but what does that say about you? What is learned when you blame someone else for something that was not meant to be for you. And if you give up than how will you ever know what is to be for you and your full potential. There is no failure, just trials. There will always be success, you just have to find it in your own way.

We rule out options that are right in front of us because we look but we don't see. How often do you realize the beauty around you versus the evil that lurks at every corner. We train ourselves to be like that, but its not right. There is beauty in everything and everyone, some lack the ability to let it shine because of hatred and other quarries, but look around and SEE the beauty that surrounds us. Does God not give us a sunset and a sunrise? Do the flowers not bloom with colors of magnificence? Do the good deeds done always have to go unnoticed? These are questions people rarely think about because of 'situations' that blind them to it.

Love for example will Always be tested. It would not be true if it wasn't. It will be tried and tested throughout the life of it and will be worth it if you keep your faith, beliefs, your appreciation and hope.

When your aware that times get tough you will be ready to take them on. and when your with someone on you take them on together. And if your alone you will only get stronger.

These tests are not to weaken us or blind us, they are only to open our eyes to what we fail to see, have failed to see and strengthen us in every possible way. It is to bring awareness and purity. To make you understand how powerful Faith can be and will be during your lifetime. And have you realize that its always easy to give up, call quits, walk away or so on. but its the power of wisdom that will keep you from staying down from the fall and not getting back up.

Always believe and never let anyone make you think other than what you want to, need to believe because that happens all to often and we lose sight of what is.

♥ Ally

Stages

Life comes in many stages. As we grow we learn to challenge them and use emotions to understand them. They become building blocks for our foundation.

Sometimes we forget that when were down, there will always be ups and more possibilities. When a door closes we often shut our eyes to the ones that open. But in order to really grow, really learn, we need to find our weaknesses and learn our strengths.

Use them for good because it's a waste to use them against another for evil. Always have faith, always believe. Were given only what we can handle, so when you think you can't, know that you were meant to and push through it. And when you get through that stage, come out with knowledge and more strength for the next.

Keep yourself open to any and all possibilities but make them positive. Walk away from the negative. They come at you when you least expect it and will take you down. Its a waste of the energy you could use for good.

A.~ ♥♥♥

'Perfectly Imperfect'

Remember a secret that most forget.. those who speak ill to others speak of themselves when targeting someone else.

people don't think of the main objective- where do thoughts come from, and the inner truth is they come from the mind of the individual. think about this too.. when your mad and you throw insults understand that half of them you throw out have nothing to do with the other person, they are really about you - but at the time you wouldn't ever recognize or admit to it. Its a human weakness that we give ourselves over to which leads to hate.

No one is perfect, perfection doesn't exist. If you want to be perfect than call yourself 'Perfectly Imperfect."

No one will ever know the real you, no one can actually step into Your life and walk a day in your shoes, so words from another's mouth should NEVER affect you. No one without insecurities and issues will bother you in a negative way unless they want to rub off their problems on you, it takes one person to ruin your day and that one persons day will be better for knowing they did that. Never let them see that, Never let them be able to do it.

Ignorance can be considered a disease, it does affect the mind. Be Diligent, enduring and never be defeated by what is already defeated.

Never let a negative moment spoil a positive opportunity.. xo ♥

Drowning

Facts:The Heart is the strongest muscle. The amount of brain cells exceed the amount of stars in the galaxy. The body is made up of 72% water.

And even though these are facts it feels as though the heart is the weakest especially when emotion is involved, we feel as though our potential is never enough even though we have the capability and when we feel like were drowning sometimes due to life and its sharp curves.

But knowing the facts your able to change the outcome.. You hold power in your hands. Believe that God gives you the words to speak from your conscious and it comes from the beauty and grace of within. But when the beauty and grace dies and the belief is no longer there, the words no longer hold power and you lose the ability of knowing any type of love and true life. It will always get hard, There will always be times of discouragement, there will always be tests of strengths, But with the tools that God gave us, we have the unconscious ability to conquer everything and anything. Keep the goodness in you and never become hard. Don't let beliefs die and knowledge go wasted. Never close off the heart due to fears. How else will love flow in and all negativity flow out. Don't wall up yourself in defense, your only walled of water and that only lasts so long.. When that waterfall comes, will it be worth the feeling of drowning..

There are so many essentials to life we overlook Take a minute to focus yourself and find your purpose. And always keep your pride, but don't let your pride define you.

A.~ ♥♥♥

Vision

It's easy to look at people and make quick judgments about them, their present and their past, but you'd be amazed at the pain and what a single tear hides. What a person shows to the world is only a grain of sand to the universe hidden from sight. Each tear drop is more costly than anything in the world, but no one knows its value, Until they have it in their own eyes. In the book of life every page has two sides: we human beings fill the upper side with our plans, hopes and wishes - but Providence writes on the other side, and what it ordains is seldom our goal.. Life is a matter of circumstance, understanding and learning. Its filled with diversion and challenged that we often don't always meet. Fear is main reason people never live their full potential, Love with their whole heart or care for others without qualm. Fate hands you a series of different people in your lifetime. your job is to not judge, to remember the book of life, and remain realistic. Then you weed out who is meant to stay, who is meant to learn from, who is worth loving, who is needed to stay away from and who will hurt you but give you knowledge and wisdom for your next series of obstacles to come.

♥♥♥ A.~

We wonder how much are hearts can take, but unbelieved it can take a lot more than we can mentally.

For the men.. If you have been hurt you need to understand that the next person that enters your life is not your ex. You need to heal before you enter into a relationship of any sort. You need Not to lead someone on into thinking what could be when it never will be.

Rebound does not exist its a bullshit excuse for weakness but what does exist is when you are hurt, that hurt can and will pour over onto the next person who enters your life. and who is that fair too?

You need to realize that not all women are the same. As much as i hate to say this, i know how many are the way they are and do what they do, but than you have good ladies with big hearts who are constantly being hurt --due to being the next person. Stress, do not let it lead your life. You leave you work at work and home at home and this is a big issue with many. Too many mix and mingle with these and it creates tension and takes away the passion if it is there. It will eventually break you and the relationship you have. Stress is with everyone and everyday, its not just you its everyone. Never take it out on someone else.

Never belittle, control or make your partner feel like there not good enough, smart enough or that what they say isn't good enough. Do not ask a question, get an answer and make it out to be something its not (stupid, ridiculous, and so on) Your getting your answer. Do not make someone feel like they cannot be themselves, because what you want is a robot not a woman, and certainly not the one your with. And learn to Listen, no not hear, you hear i know that, But listen and don't just get three words out of it, make sure you get the whole thing. Because later it will come back to where its now miscommunication.

If you feel like your closed off and can't open up with the person you are with, Tell them. do not keep this to your self. Its not fair to neither party. And A REAL women will take it in stride and that's where I'm headed next..

Ladies

This ALL applies to you as well. You have no right to criticize men especially when they are at their lowest. It makes you a low person. Everything i said for the men is still the same for us. There are good guys out there, but a lot are broken just as we have been at some point. The idea is to be understanding. And if you see signs of belittling, or things being taken out on you.. There is your red flag. Walk Away. you want to stay and deal with it -you will walk away broken just as he did because its reenactment. Human behavior.

They say its the good ones who never get the girl/guy. that's a bunch of bullshit. We do but we get hurt because with all the bad out there, its so hard sometimes too to understand, comprehend that there are Exceptions to the morons. Perfection does not exist, never will, but in the eyes of one, you will be that perfect person. until than do not go out breaking hearts and using because all your doing is hurting every other guy and every other lady out there who will be the next one up.

As much as we want love, we have so much yet we see so little. Trust but remember that in the end the one you trust most is yourself. (instinct)

A.~

The building of something special..

We take advantage of situations as we do many things in life. But we are creatures of temptation and hurt. Those two are the hardest to overcome in life. But we tend to forget that life doesn't stop for anyone or for any reason. It does not stop rotating and nothing stands still. So even when we feel as though we are at a moment where everything has frozen, remember the mind can be powerful in playing that trick with you, but for a reason.That i won't get into this time.

When we are hurt we not only put up walls but we put up dead ends. We just don't realize it until something/someone else walks into our life and starts to bump in to those ends. And that's where understanding comes to light. All that time you thought you were protecting yourself from hurt, all your were doing is blocking yourself off from possibilities. some that can be so sweet and beautiful. but than you have a choice- you Always have a choice.

The question is are you willing to take the chance. To be vulnerable is one of the hardest things for a human to do. i won't bore you with numbers but human behavior show that people would rather walk around with a shell of steel than let themselves open to something that no one can predict as an outcome. But is it worth it..

To me i think that if you really want to live, live fully, than you would be open to everything and anything. how else are you to grow and learn. and even if there are hurts along the way, it makes you stronger, wiser and ready for the next battle. But to block someone from a potential Love that can open your life to something new is like throwing a piece of yourself away. Love is the most powerful of emotions and has the most powerful effects. Sometimes its not about trusting the other person, its about trusting yourself. but here is somewhat of a guide to show you a growing potential of a real relationship.

A real relationship has building components - but inside those components there are secrets that we forget and tend to neglect. Which is why even a healthy relationship can fail. Passion can get you so far but than life is still everyday and takes a toll.. and with that every relationship:

Has fights. Has trust. Has faith. Has tears. Has hurt. Has sweet smiles. Has genuine laughter. Has snorts because of the laughter. Has weird, stupid, unnecessary arguments. Has patience. Has communication. Has secrets. Has jealousy. And most importantly it has ♥ Love ♥

1:Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have. 2:One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure its worth watching. 3:There is only one happiness in life -- to love and to be loved. 4:Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced. 5:And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.

A Wish..

If all you had to do was wish for something and you would have it, life would be pretty boring, wouldn't it?

There will always be barriers between us and what we want, so we can enjoy interesting and satisfying lives. God hid our biggest rewards behind the highest barriers - our deepest fears. The idea is for us to face our fears, and hold ground in their presence, and than let them go. That's how we get out biggest rewards.

What are you most afraid of? Say it, just start by saying it-recognize it, acknowledge it. When your ready you will defeat it.

Will it ever be easy? In certain instances it might come easy to some, but for the most part no. It isn't meant to be easy. Life was not meant to be easy. Test of faith and belief, and when it comes down to it its a test of self.

We are not born with strength and wisdom. They are learned, and they are earned. Nothing comes for free, its just not the way its intended to be. But it makes certain thing that much more special when received. Love, Success, Happiness, these are gifts to be earned, they are not handed to you. God puts options in front of us, but the end result is on you. you make the decision and no one else does.

When we wish for something, we expect it to be just like that. wish granted. But that's not what happens. Like a prayer, Were handed options in order to receive that want or need, and what we do is what determines if we deserve that wish. Is it possible, yes all things all. But like said, its not handed.

And usually what happens when we receive what is wished for, we either take advantage of it, or we don't recognize it as a gift and we want more. Greed takes a large space in many lives and it can and will lead to hate. When one does not get handed everything they want, they turn cold and mean. And that's why were not just granted whatever we want. imagine a world like that. Is it not bad enough as it is? It would be worse.

Those barriers are what teach us and give us the lessons and courage we need to proceed in this life. When were not ready, sometimes were ramming into walls. It does not mean it won't happen, it means your not ready for whatever it is your trying to achieve. There are always steps. And there will be always learning. But if your open to possibilities and open to what is, and what will be, you will make your path and find what your looking for. You will realize that wishes need not to be made because your able to get what you want and need without them.

Never give up, give in. Never follow, always lead. When you follow you will miss what is presented in front of you and will never know what could have been. Never turn hard and mean because you will miss out on the most important part of life, such as love and true happiness. Just because things aren't easy doesn't mean in the end they won't be worth it. Patience. Continue to learn and continue to follow the path you feel is best for you. You will get where you need to be.

<3 A.~

Learning, Accepting, Healing and Avoiding

They say time heals all. But if your depending on time, and time alone to do the healing than your mistaken by the meaning..

The only way to heal is to guide yourself through the process of healing. Grief, mourning, closure, accepting and moving on for example. And in time with this process you will be able to go forth without doubt, sadness or regret.

This is for everything. If you have been wronged in any way, this also applies. Although i find that people use this as an excuse to behave and act the way they do. Such as hatred and anger. People like this are constantly negative and will bring as many people into their little world as they can manipulate. In doing so they are able to turn them and mold them into what this person is. Human behavior.

People are followers and very few are leaders. And with that, the ones who do lead should always lead in a positive way to have an inspirational impact on the world around them. If not, well we know what would happen..

You don't need me to explain to you why people are the way they are, you know this already. It always starts from the beginning. The first breath you took, the first steps you walked, the first game you played. all this is part of the role of who you are now. Our past is our most influential impact as to who we are today. Which is still not an excuse to become of the evil type.

For example. If one was beaten growing up, or around prostitution, taken advantage of, bullied as a kid, and so on. This person has two choices. They can take what happened to them and what they saw and turn it around and make their life opposite and as positive and loving as possible. And yes the ability is there as well as the potential.

But the other choice is why we have the society we do today. People take their past and bend it in a way so that it still is the present for them. They want payback, revenge. Do you think people become sociopaths because they were loved too much? These type of people lose the power of emotion and the one that they usually find themselves feeling is anger and the role of anger usually goes to hatred. I can only imagine how many can say they have x amount of haters, but have no idea why..

Well if your a happy person, wouldn't you think that someone who knows nothing of happiness will see this and envy it. If you have love, this person will either see you as weak, or be jealous of it because they wonder why they can't find it themselves. they even question if they are capable of loving or being loved. If your positive, down to earth and stable, you are the envy of most. So wouldn't it be warranted to say that one would see you as a threat? You are better than them and whats the best way to break someone down.. The answer is emotionally. Physical is too temporary, but emotional, if worked on, you can break someone to the point of them questioning them self. and That's where understanding comes into play.

You have someone who bothers you, bullies you in any way, stalks you or hates on you in some way, so on.. This is what they are trying to do. break you. But you need to ask yourself, who are they really breaking down in the process. We all know that words said are words about yourself. Where else would they come from.So whatever you hear is not really about you, its about the person saying them.

You have to remember your beliefs, because they get attacked, but if you believe in them as you should you will be able to let whatever is said or done go and feel remorse for that person trying to break them. You need to understand who you are as a person. If your happy, know why and i say this because the people who will hate on this will find out why. They will find your strengths and target your weaknesses. So if your prepared and you know both as i have said before, you will be able to withstand the crap that comes out of ones mouth. You know why your happy. you know your loved and/or you love. you know what you have and don't have, your wants and needs. you know where your from and you know your past; and the past is another i want to get into to in a bit.

So do you know who's who and who to watch out for?

Someone who is hateful and negative will come off as too upbeat. too happy and it will seem as though they try to hard to please. They will put this false facade on so that others don't notice their misery. You need to understand who these people are and start noticing the people around you. i bet if you start really looking, you will be able to pick some out within seconds. You need to be able to notice that they whine a lot and will take something that was done to them and Never let it go, which means you will hear of it A LOT, in one way or another. Usually a name you will hear a lot as well. (If they tried to break someone and failed, they will never get over this person or stop trying to hurt them in some way, so their name will pop up a lot along with a string of lies that really don't make much sense.)

If you understand how these people are, than you will be less likely to fall victim to them. You will see bully tendencies, or them trying too hard to be a leader but never leading. you will notice them picking up others behaviors (copying) whether its words, clothes, the way the talk and act, so on. even the way they dress. Remember these people are so lost, so instead of looking for themselves (because they blame the world for being how and who they are not themselves) they target others and will try to be them. even use them in many ways.

So lets go back to the past. when you fall victim, you need to know that your past will be used against you. It may be nothing but it will be turned into something, and usually enough to break someones spirit and discourage them. You have seen the suicide rates, and to me it breaks my heart. These kids, teens and adults are used and broken down during it.

Believe it or not, Haters, bullies and so on will seek you out to friend you. Whats the best way to break someone but to show them great friendship and than start slowly on breaking you down till you start questioning. and that's why I'm giving you ideas as to who and what these people are, and I'm telling you exactly what and who their going to target.

Remember your past was the past for a reason. It remains to be that way. its your choice to start re-evaluating it, but nothing good comes of it. Its called the past for a reason. your present is more important. think of it as what its called, a gift. and your future depends on what you do today, not what you did yesterday.

There is no one reason people like this do what they do, but you have an idea of some of them. You have a way of picking them out. And you have a way of knowing if your becoming a target, will become a target or already are. You now have the power to defeat it and not question what they want you to question and remember who you are.

Be you and be successful in all you do. Never care what others think or say. Take the positive and try to stray from the negative. And if you see someone being hurt don't turn your cheek, do something, say something. What if that person was you..

Be a leader but be a rightful one. Remember always, i can't press this enough, that its takes so much energy and time to become a bully, hater or whatever you want to call them, than is to just be happy and do what you need and want to do.

A.~

Eye of the Beholder

Beauty is such a controversial thing. Beauty on the inside versus beauty on the outside. Can one person possess both? And how do we even know what real beauty is? Its amazing how the human eye differs just as each individual does. What one person perceives as beautiful, another may not. People do have the power to posses both inner and outer beauty, but too many have too much dark in them to let that light shine out. And so you may see a pretty face but than you get to see the personality. I really don't care if someone is fake or not,because the reality of it is, you can only keep up the facade for so long before you slip up. I've watched people do it too often. It leads me to believe, its a waste of time. That time should be spent re-analyzing who you are so that you don't have to act a certain way for people to like you, accept you. inner beauty is when you love yourself and have love for others. When you are not number one, but have priorities and are realistic. you take the time to care and have compassion. Thats true beauty in my opinion. Anyone can be beautiful physically. i believe everyone to be, but most disagree with me. but our own worst critic is ourselves. You have to believe in yourself and have faith that who you are is beautiful. We can use enhancements, have procedures, or work hard every day on the appearance, but once you open your mouth people know who you are. and all that work, was for nothing. and so whats more important.. to look beautiful or to Be beautiful. if there is one thing i hate, its a word, and that word is Ugly. i don't like it at all. i think the word is an excuse to make someone feel better about their own shortcomings. i think people use it for spite and out of hate. i also believe that there is No such thing as ugly. And who the hell has the real answer as to what is beautiful versus what is ugly? because you've heard it before you think you have the right to use it? you don't. just like you don't have the right to judge. and that's what your doing. It comes down to a very simple knowledge we all possess. To be beautiful is be someone who makes a difference. Who has nothing to hide and has no hate in them. Beauty is not a size, a shape or form, its not a color or preference. beauty is who a person is. Just because you don't see something that appeases your eye does not mean it won't appeal to someone elses. so if you have an urge to say something negative.. remember this: You are the one about to make yourself 'ugly' for thinking the way you do and wanting to say what you have no right to. Everyone has the right to be their own kind of beautiful, the first one to please is yourself. Care nothing of what others think, they don't face that mirror day after day, you do. Insecurity does destroy you. It becomes a toxin. So flush it. one of my favorite quotes: "Sometimes people are beautiful, not in looks, not in what they say, just in what they are.' -Markus Zusak' Ever wonder what people assume about your personality from the way you look? Beauty without intelligence is a Masterpiece painted on a napkin.. Love Always. and Forever Love. A.~